Momma Jo

[Imissyoumommajo]

Hello. I am hoping that sharing my mom's story will help me move along in the grieving process. It has been 7 months today. Mom was diagnosed with cervical cancer on Oct. 26th, 2009. She had never really been sick in her life. Nine days later we found out that it was stage 4 throughout her entire body. It came as a huge shock to us all. I had just had my first child on Oct. 21, 2009. Needless to say that I was a mess. Mom was here with us for less than 4 months after that. She was one of the most giving people I will ever know. She also loved her children more than we will ever know. She was the best grandma as well. She loved all of her grandchildren. I was the last of her children to have children. I got to spend some time with her while I was on maternity leave with my son. She held him and feed him...and loved on him when she had the strength. It was one of the hardest things to watch. She was the strongest woman I know and to see her so weak was scary. I was there when she took her last breath. Here recently I keep having flash backs of when she first called me on Oct. 26th to say she has cancer. I remember getting the phone call from my younger sister on Nov. 9th that it was stage 4 and then when she decided she no longer wanted treatment. It was so hard to hear her say that. It was only 2 weeks later that she was gone. Now my son is getting so big. He is walking and learning so fast. It is wonderful as his mother to watch him but sad b/c I know my mom is not here to see it. She was so excited for him to finally arrive. I know that my story kinda jumps...it's still hard to put everything into words. She hard to believe she is gone. I miss you momma Jo!

[Ron B.]

Welcome to our grief and healing forum. Everybody here has a story to tell, and telling our stories does help us heal. I don't understand at all why cancer is so prevalent; it took my father, mother, stepfather, 2 uncles, and one grandmother. It was my mother that recently passed away, and like you the time I spent with my mother in those last months is now precious to me. I too was with my mom as she took her last breaths; I can't think about that time without emotion. I think you are fortunate to bring new life into this world; somehow that helps balance out the life that was taken away. Should we call you Imissyoumommajo? I am glad you found us. - Ron B.