Cris

Jennifer, I am knew to this site. But my husband passed away 3 years ago. It took me 2 years till I went through his stuff. And that was because I sold my house to move closer to my daughter. Dont feel bad I still cant go through albums or too many pictures other then the ones I have out. Dont feel like you have to do anything untill you are ready. Everyone grieves different.I read once you only grieve as deep as you loved!I still cry but try to set aside the time in the morning when I walk the dog and pray and talk to him! It helps me to try and get it out first thing. Dont be so hard on yourself it takes alot of time! Hang in there I hope today is better! Cris

Deborah, Im trying to find a way to let go of some of this pain. also. It is a up hill climb. I keep busy as much as I can. I pray everyday and hope to find a purpose besides my children. They are grown but I dont like to upset them. They are the reason I fight to go on. I dont want them to not have me either. They miss their Dad so much. We had such a nice life. I think thats what makes this so hard. It does seem like some people move on alot quicker than me. Thats why I was on line and somehow found this site. I will keep you and everyone here in my prayers also. I wish there was an answer for us! thanks for chatting! Cris

Deborah, This is so crazy! My husbands name was Larry too! The reason I think I found this site was because I feel like I should be better by now!I have tried so hard to not think about all the ways I miss him. But its so hard! Is 5 years any easier? Ive read so many books on being a widow, grief, I think I could teach a class!! I waited 2 years and then sold my house and moved close to my daughter. It has helped some, but, the pain is always there. I thank God every day I had him for 30 years! But it still wasnt enough. I think about him every day in some way. Do you still do that? My bestfriend is great but married.I dont think you can understand unless you experience such a loss! I wouldnt wish this on my worst enemy. Thankyou for responding. Cris

Hi! Ive never done anything like this before! I found this site by accident. I wish I would have had this when I first lost my husband. I agree this is a club no one asks to join! Its been a little over 3 years for me. My husband was only 52 and died of a heart attack on his Birthday! Im very lucky to have 2 great kids and great friends and family. BUT, it does not take away the pain and loneliness! All my friends are married and I hate weekends too! In one of the books I read it said you only grieve as much as you loved!!! And I loved that man more than life its self! I could write a book on the stupid things people have said and still do! I will never get over it you just learn to live with it. I still can cry every day. But it does get alittle better with time.