Wow. I can't believe I'm going through this again. Two years ago, my sheltie, Eddie, passed away. He was 11 years young. I stay at home and watch my grandchildren so I am always home. When Eddie passed, I was devastated. I loved him so much and I know he loved me just as much. He was my buddy. Always by my side, giving me kisses, bringing me joy. I didn't think I would get over his loss. I had just brought home a golden (Lady)a year before he passed, and they were best of friends. It was so hard on her to lose her playmate and companion. I vowed to never again bring another dog home. I just couldn't hardly bear the loss or even the thought of another loss.
Then my brother had health problems. He had a black lab-jack russell mix named Willie. I welcomed Willie into our home thinking he would just be here temporarily. My brother ended up moving to Florida and leaving his dog here. He was here for 9 months. I fell in love with him. He kind of took Eddie's place in a way. I mean, I love my golden, and she's a sweetheart, but she's not as affectionate as Eddie and Willie were. Of course she's huge, so she can't sit on my lap, she's afraid of heights, so she can't sleep with me.
So I became extremely attached to Willie. He was my little man. We were together 24-7. He loved walks, playing ball, rough housing with Lady, and living his little life to the fullest. When he came here he was so healthy. It didn't ever cross my mind that he would be gone in less than a year.
After weekly visits to the vet for 2 months, we made the decision for the vet to open him up and try to find the problem. Willie was barely eating and had lost weight and I became concerned, hence the first visit to the vet. Those last two months were so hard on the both of us. He continued to lose an extreme amount of weight, but was still just as loveable and playful as ever. The vet called during the surgery and said he found a tumor the size of a racquetball ball. And that something was going on with his liver but he didn't know what. He recommended that we not wake Willie up from the surgery. I agreed with him. I didn't want Willie to suffer, and to be honest, his declining health had put me into such a depression, and I just couldn't bare to watch him die.
I feel so much guilt. I can't hardly stand it. About 2 months ago, Lady and Willie were in the house and my husband threw the tennis ball for them to fetch. He didn't know any better, I however, did. Lady is huge and Willie was just a little guy. She ran him over often in fetch, so I didn't play it with them together. Just one at a time. Well, of course they both made a mad dash for the ball, and Lady accidentally (with all of her weight) ran Willie into the corner of a large desk. Willie was really hurt. It took him several minutes to recover, and he ended up with a huge knot on his side. But, he began to play, eat, and act normally so I didn't worry too much. Within a week or two he quit eating and we began our visits to the vet. I did tell the vet what had happened but he didn't think that was the problem.
Looking back, I think it was the beginning of the end. I feel so guilty for not taking Willie to the vet immediately after it happened. This is just killing me inside. And, I still have to tell my brother that Willie is gone. I did let him know that Willie was not well, and about our visits to the vet. I am feeling so much sadness over losing Willie. I am overwhelmed with grief. My brother loved his dog every bit as much as I did. He had him for 10 years. My brother also suffers from mental problems, and isn't doing well right now, and I am so afraid this will push him over the edge. My daughter says I have to tell him. My friend says I should not tell him until I have to (if he visits here). I don't know what to do. If I tell him, I'm so afraid of how he'll react. If I don't tell him, I just constantly run through my mind how I will tell him and how he'll react.
I am controlling the crying somewhat (people think I'm crazy for being so upset), but inside I hurt so badly. Sometimes the tears just flow from crying so hard inside. I just don't know what to do. I miss my buddy so badly. I was so used to having him around every second. He never left my side. He was so full of love and expressed that love constantly. I just feel so alone, so alienated.
I have endured so many losses in my life. Lost my father at a young age, then lost my brother, then lost my twin sister the week after we turned 39, and then my mother passed just 5 years ago. I brought Eddie home after I lost my father and sister to help me with my grief. Then I lost Eddie. And although I still have a brother, he is mentally ill and he just isn't the same guy I grew up with, so in a way I've lost him too. I just don't know what I've done in my life to lose everyone I love so dearly. I still have my husband, my children, and of course Lady our golden retriever. But my children are grown, my husband works, and although I love Lady, she just isn't the companion that Eddie and Willie were. So, I feel alone and grief stricken. For a minute I seem to be coping ok and then all of a sudden it's like someone is pulling my heart out. And I am so angry about it all. It should have never happened.