The Harley is just the tip of the iceburg...
My husband's hands are all over this house, between remodeling and trying to bring life and grace into our space I can't move without feeling him around me. The bike is only a part of my "woes" so to speak. It's only the part the "outsiders" see monetary value in. Well... I shouldn't say that really, they (family) are all speculating how long I will make it in "our" home before I "need to sell".
Greedy bast**ds... sorry... going from crying to anger in a split second isn't pretty is it? Although I am beneficiary it doesn't stop the hard feelings coming out now from everyone, loved me when my husband was here but not so much now, huh? 14 years together, 9 years married... I think we knew each other well enough, lots of history that's not appropriate here.
So when your dreams include two people and end up broken and shattered around you just how does one start to rebuild them when everyone around you is hostile or judging or waiting for you to fail? I had a better handle on my life when I was younger and I went through a divorce and raising a daughter on my own, I had more energy and was driven. This loss is completely different. It absolutely has taken my breath away. This loss is at a time in my life when I could retire in 9 more years. That is until the melanoma hit last year and changed everything... and death ended our dreams together and has certainly shattered my life.
Buy then many people have stories, don't they? And sickness happens to much younger than my husband I know, but it doesn't help me get through this alone. It doesn't help the hurt any less. The only thread I keep hanging onto is the fact that my husband was such a fighter. He never felt sorry for himself no matter what he faced during the year of his battle. Now who am I to sit here and feel sorry for myself? As the tears are rolling down my cheek, I hear his voice remind me that his battle is over. That I don't have to fight so hard anymore, that he is free.
But I miss him.
Deb
May 27th, 2011