Anearia

Hi Kay. I am so sorry to have offended you. it was certainly not my intention, I do think you misunderstood what I was trying to say. I was by no means undermineing anyones grief. on the contrary-what I was trying to get at with the whole ''moving on'' thing all the time from outsiders was that it is subconciously important to them, to feel that we are moving on as their own minds and situation cannot comprehend what we are going through. [in whatever terms that means to the individual-whether in grief or consoling someone grieveing]. 

anyway. I am sorry. I wont bother you guys again.

sincerest apologies

Anearia