Kevinslove

I want you to know  how sorry  I am for your loss and I lost my husband  of 26 years  almost  5 years  ago and I know  the pain I would  suggest  taking one breath at a time if you have  to I know  it will come in waves but there is a point where the waves become  smaller less frequent I am so sorry  for your loss and know  you are not alone . Hugs 

I truly am sorry for your loss let me start be saying this is not your fault  you had  no way of knowing  what would happen  I  lost my Kevin  to a drug overdose  and I kept thinking  if only I had  been tougher if only I had  stopped  him from using somehow  that day it took me along time to accept  it was not my fault  unfortunately  there are alot of questions  we will not have  answers to, I  wish there was away  to tell you how to stop the pain it is a pain  I don't  wish on anyone  I can  tell you to just take one moment at a time one breath at a time if you have  to and know  you are not alone  in your journey. hugs

Thank you so much I feel you pain I really  do I still miss Kevin  very much especially  when something  is going on with my kids ( they are all adults) he was the only other person  on the planet  to love them like I do  I know  that marker  days are very hard some of the hardest  at least  for me I am very luck to be able to love again sometimes I get scared though scared of suffering  the loss again my new partner  is 7 years my senior  so high chance of it again but I try not to think about  it because  I have  learned  that with love comes  loss , I can't  say it gets better with time hopefully  we all learn to live with the loss and find a sense of peace  in our life, learn to smile again and appreciate  life more my heart  goes out to you 

Thank you all for the advice  a part of me thinks alot of it comes from him not fully understanding  the loss of a spouse  he told me when we first met he felt very sorry for my loss and he knew from reading my old Facebook  posts that I had gone through  alot pain  and I have  explained  to him that the sorrow  I feel for the loss of Kevin  has nothing to do with him he just can't  seem to completely  comprehend  that sometimes  example Kevin's five year mark is Monday and I took off work to be with my daughter  because  it is a hard day and his response  was I don't  understand  why you have  to be sad on that day I didn't  even respond  to that because  he will never  understand  fully he thinks you need to let go of the people  you lost which is how he handled  his brother passing  and friends and that's fine for some people  everyone  handles loss different I also know that it's harder for him to deal with things because  10 years ago he was in a bad car accident  that gave him some brain trauma  and I understand  that I guess I just have  to keep explaining  things to him and hopefully  he understands  one day

Thank you Marty I will he was tremendous  source of help and encouragement  when I first started  this journey 

Thank you for your kind words I am so sorry  for your loss I remember  all to well those feelings  of not just being  here without  Kevin  hurt didn't  feel like living without him I do consider  myself  lucky in alot of way thank you for reminding  me of it I was lucky to of had 26 amazing years  of unconditional  love and I am lucky to be able  to love again maybe  I am thinking  to much into it 

Hello to all this post might be alittle  long so I apologize  now if it is I am not sure how many  people  can relate  to this but need any support  out there I a week will be 5 years  Kevin  has been gone this upcoming marker has been alittle  harder on me than last few not really  sure why anyways I  was able  to find someone  special  in my life again to find love again been with him for 2 years  now I  never  thought I would utter  those words the first year Kevin  was gone  I could not picture  love again I know  alot of people  do not find love again or don't  wa to look for it again  and I completely  understand  that but I made a choice along this journey  road that I would not let the loss I suffered consume the rest  of my life I saw it eat away at my grandmother  when she lost my grandfather when I was nine my dilemma  is that I know  I will never and could never stop loving Kevin and his death day is an absolute  trigger for me the new man I am with is a good person  and he knows  my loss not necessarily  understands it completely  because  he got divorced  did not become single due to loss so at times he doesn't  understand  why I can't  just put it behind me he has suffered  loss in his life he has lost friends  and family but I guess he deals with those losses by letting  go which I know  everyone deals with grief differently in their own way  just so confused on how to proceed without hurting  the person  I am with now and without  letting go of Kevin it's like what right do I  have  to expect a person  to just accept  a part of me will always  belong to someone  not here anymore  just very confused  right now

I am so sorry for your loss, I like to think that we don't  stay miserable  for the rest of our lives that we find away to smile laugh and still enjoy things in life but unfortunately  I don't  think we ever truly won't  have sad moments not with the love we shared with our partners it's just getting  to the point  where the happy moments  out way the sad I don't  think we are ever over it we just learn to live with the loss and hopefully  find a sense of peace and happiness  again

Hello to everyone  I have  not been on here in about a year am sure lots of new people  who have  joined this journey  of grief my name is Robin and I lost my husband  of 26 years  almost 5 years ago I found this site and with the caring of others I found out I was not alone in my grief journey  I went  through it all the hopeless feelings, the not wanting  to be here without  him feelings, the feeling utterly lost in this world but slowly  I found away to keep going to smile again to even find love for another again his 5th year is coming up in May and its hitting me extremely  hard this year I almost  feel like slipping  back to when it first happened  I find it hard to smile hard to get motivated  I feel the missing what used to be , the longing for what used to be it feels very hard this year has anyone else found this happening  to them that are alittle  farther along in this journey? My heart  truly goes out to everyone  on this site this is a wonderful  site but not one any of us ever wanted  to be on