My sister died November 5th 2006, she was 35 years old. It still seems impossible. She is the baby out of ten of us and she also leaves behind 3 young children and her husband. She was diagnosed with fibromyalgia two years ago. She had steadily gotten worse and a week before she died, a butterfly rash appeared on her face. Lupus was diagnosed and she had an appointment the following Monday with a specialist. She died Sunday night. Every time I drive the interstate I re-live the drive to the hospital when I got the call that she had been taken from home in an ambulance. I remember praying to God that she was OK. I remember feeling that she was already gone. When they told me she “had passed”, I had to see for myself. I keep her picture clearly visible in my bedroom to wipe the memory of the cold ER room and the tubes and bruises all over her body. I want to scream at the people who tell me I am lucky to have such a big family to fill the emptiness.We are still ten, but the last one is only sweet memories and nothing can fill the hole that has been left. I don’t eat, I’m not hungry. I don’t sleep very well and I have quit dreaming. I used to always remember my dreams. I don’t know if my mind is blocking them out or if just don’t dream anymore. At work I am a drone with no program to follow. I feel physically ill, tired and I ache. I have good days where I actually accomplish something, I have good moments where I am happy and then bad ones, like now. This week her husband told my mother he was moving back home. Half way across the county my nieces and nephew will be raised by strangers. They have lost their mother, their home, their school and all stability that remained. I know he is still in shock & denial, but I also know it is wrong. He moved out here to get away from his family. How can he subject his own children to what he ran away from? All of my sister’s belongings and her ashes will go with him. I feel like she is dying all over again. I am so full of emotion that I feel numb.