MandyF Posted June 12, 2006 Report Share Posted June 12, 2006 My counselor told me to find helpful information online about what happened to me ten years ago . I haven't seen a counselor in 8 years but recently found myself needing guidance and answers. Ten years ago my dad murdered my mom and stepdad and then commited suicide. I was the only one home at the time and had the horrific task of discovering the bodies. It has been ten years and I sit here shaking as I am writing this. I have not found anyone that has gone through something similar. It would be nice to know how someone else went through a similar experience. I have done fine for myself. I am about to graduate with a master's degree. After the initial shock wore off, I put on my strong face and went on with my life. I think I grew up too quick because I didn't take time to grieve. I was only 15 at the time of the murders. I have not been able to forgive my dad. That is another step I wish I could take. Any advice or help would be greatly appreciated.Thanks! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shell Posted June 12, 2006 Report Share Posted June 12, 2006 Mandy,I am so sorry for your losses and the circumstances surrounding them. I honestly don't know how you deal and cope with something so horiffic. I think you are right in believing you didn't grieve fully when it happened. I think age has a lot to do with how we grieve, and at that age, I don't think you would even know how to grieve properly. And I can't say that I blame you for not forgiving your father, I don't think I could either. I know it's suppose to help you to forgive, but it's a tall, tall order in a case like that. There is another poster who just lost her mother because her father poisoned her. I hope she sees your post and responds. I really have no advice except that you have taken the first step and I think that means you are ready to really face everything and work out your feelings. And to properly grieve, so you can heal. Hang in there. What a strong person you must be to have gotten this far and done so good in life. I think you are a very special person.Hugs to you, Shell Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MandyF Posted June 12, 2006 Author Report Share Posted June 12, 2006 Thanks shell, for your response. I will look for that individual on the board. It is easier to want to do good when you have special ones looking down on you.Hugs back-MandyF Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shell Posted June 13, 2006 Report Share Posted June 13, 2006 Mandy,I see you found her posts. I think the two of you can help each other a lot. Hang in there.Hugs,Shell Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MandyF Posted June 13, 2006 Author Report Share Posted June 13, 2006 Thank you Shell!MandyF Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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