Joe Posted June 24, 2006 Report Share Posted June 24, 2006 I ahve been involved in this online community for four weeks. My father passed on 5/26/06. The advice and companionship is excellent and does help. I am now finding that I am part of an interesting yet difficult situation and was wondering if anyone can advise or point in the right direction.I am the youngest of 5 children(36)in my family which has always been very very close, until my Dads passing. My two oldest sisters(54 and 52), are not speaking to each other. My second oldest sister is still at 5/26/06. She was the closest to dad. She wanted to hold onto his oxygen "Just incase you never know when someone would need it." She gave me an old razor of dads and when I was going to throw out the old blades she grabbed them and said those are Daddy's whiskers." I can understand that we all mourn and experience grief at different stages and times. Also there is no right or wrong way for one to grieve. My concern is that my two older sisters were always extremely close in a family sense. Now they are not speaking and there is so much tension between them. I received 2 calls from one sister today and was getting a really rude snotty attitude for something which I did not deserve it for. I did not argue with her as I thought that would be the worse thing to do and just let the calls fly by. I am wondering if she is trying to pull me in to her fued or break apart the family all together. I have starting attending a greif support group(Last night 6/22/06), and my other sisters are all in support of it. My one sister feels that "She does not have a problem we all have the problem." She also has stated "I dont need help from you or anyone else." Her words are coming across like dagegrs and knives instead of words and her actions are alarning us all that love and care about her. What can I do to remain safe and sane in the situation and yet get her to see how her actions, if no help is needed, are conveying a totally different message? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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