Bf asking for space after dad's death

[oilyskinguru]

 

My bf lost his dad 2 weeks ago, first 10 days he has been calling me everyday. Then suddenly he just asked for a week space. No calls and text. He hasn't been online as well. His phone is ringing and my last message is still pushing through. He said he wanted a week space to process his dad's death. Is that normal or okay? Do they really come back after a week? I worry about him.

[kayc]

I'm so sorry you are going through this.  My fiance of a year broke up with me when his mom was dying, we remained friends after she died but they don't normally resume relationship when taking a time apart due to grief.  I don't want to project on you what I went through but in the Loss of Love section, I've seen a lot of these situations and none of them resumed, I've read them all over the years.  I thought a couple did only to have them message me later that they did not.

I don't want to give you false hope, but some grievers are unable to do a relationship at the same time as grieving, those seem to be the ones we hear about here.  Otherwise, the person would have no need to be here.  Here I Go Again

 

[oilyskinguru]

On 4/20/2024 at 6:21 PM, kayc said:

I'm so sorry you are going through this.  My fiance of a year broke up with me when his mom was dying, we remained friends after she died but they don't normally resume relationship when taking a time apart due to grief.  I don't want to project on you what I went through but in the Loss of Love section, I've seen a lot of these situations and none of them resumed, I've read them all over the years.  I thought a couple did only to have them message me later that they did not.

I don't want to give you false hope, but some grievers are unable to do a relationship at the same time as grieving, those seem to be the ones we hear about here.  Otherwise, the person would have no need to be here.  Here I Go Again

 

Update. He followed through after a week. He called me earlier and we started talking again. We spoke for 30 mins. At the end of the call, he told me he is still grieving and he doesn't want to much emotions at the moment because it will trigger his grief. He couldn't say I love you because he doesn't want anything that has something to do with emotions at the moment. However he said he cares a lot about me that's why he reconnected and called back. We spoke like how we usually speak with each other. Catching up telling me how his day was and his whereabouts. So it seems like we are in good terms and I got no reason to be anxious and worried.

[kayc]

I hope so...