How Do I Help My Children?

[regas99]

My two girls, aged 13 and 15, are already dealing with their parent's divorce. Today my ex-wife took them both to the mall, leaving their dog in the car for three hours with the windows rolled up in 80 degree heat. The dog was dead when they returned to the car.

My girls are devastated, saying "we killed our dog." I do not want to tell them to blame their mother -- that would not help them deal with the divorce, and she feels bad enough already. And telling them that they bear no responsibility seems futile and perhaps counter-productive.

I can help them through the grieving process, but I am unsure as to a short-term strategy to dealing with the guilt and self-blame. Sound advice would be appreciated.

[shell]

Regas,

My sound advice would be to tell the girls the truth. That their mother made a huge mistake, leaving the dog in the car. Hopefully it will teach them a valuable lesson and they will know not to do this! Too bad someone didn't teach your ex this valuable lesson!

Shell

[amanda]

hi regas,

shell is totally right once again,you have to tell the children the truth,it will be hard for them and thier mother but with your support im sure they will get through.

sorry i couldnt be any more help.

amanda

[STARKISS]

Hi regas 99,

I agree totally with Shell and Amanda, I know that it will be hard for all of you but with God's help and with prayers you will all get through this trying and difficult time... Here is to a better tomorrow for you and the girls. Take care Shelley