allalone Posted June 17, 2008 Report Share Posted June 17, 2008 I went to my parent's grave yesterday to put fresh flowers and came across something that disturbs me and leaves me to question why.Someone had taken the roses that my brother had put in the flower urn for my mom and stomped on them and my sister put two small resin birds and one of them was also stomp on and strewn.We have had rain, but the way the flowers were at the grave it was not from the grounds keeper lawnmower or anything like that. I wanted to believe that at first as I couldn't fanthom that anyone would do such a thing. But then again my stepfather had threaten to exhume my mother so anything is possible.I'm pretty sure it was either my stepfather or adopted sister as no one else would have any reason at this time to do this. I emailed this to my siblings - my sister seems upset and of course rightly so. My siblings wouldn't do this as we all miss and respect our mother too much. My suspicions are cast towards my adopted sister and stepfather for a few reasons 1. We are in a legal battle with my stepfather 2. When my mother could no longer get out of bed, my stepfather took the blooming orchid that I got for my mother, brought it into the backyard and mowed over it several times and 3. My adopted sister has admitted to me she takes cocaine and she was always extremely abusive towards my mom. Therefore, in connecting dots, potentially one of them could have been the culperit. As I said, no one else has any reason to do so but then again, one never knows.I simply cannot comprehend "why" anyone is like this. This is disturbing behavior for many reasons. Someone is not dealing with their grief properly, has many anger issues towards my mother and our family and of course it leads one to ponder if it starts as this and will things end up in a much worse situation. It goes without saying that it is completely disrespectful to my mother, and it is targeted to hurt my siblings and myself. Why would anyone do something so bizarre and stupid? I can understand that each and every one of us is in pain, but what does it accomplish? It's not like this behavior won't be recognized for what it is - a feable way of lashing out. I can't understand why anyone would display such mentally unstable behavior like this. It also makes me once again consider and still arrive at the same comclusion where I could not understand why my mom stayed in such an abusive situation. It just continued to get worse over the years and both of them became more and more complicit in the increasing abuse towards my mom. If we stepped in or did anything it would make things worse and she wouldn't want to talk to us.In many ways seeing the roses and the resin bird like that doesn't surprise me, but now that my mom is gone, it seems that someone cannot leave her to rest peacefully and respect at the very minimum her memory. Yes, there is some extremely sick and unbalanced individual or individuals. So along with mourning my mom we are led to believe that there is some sicko(s) out there. I know my mom would have said feel "sorry for that person" because they are so unstable. And to some degree I do feel sorry, but one has to be really deranged to start doing that to someone's grave. I'm left to think why doesn't that person get help. I suppose there is no sense in wondering why. I just have to shake my head and think that my mom is in a good place where she is at peace and no matter what anyone does, there is nothing that this person can do to hurt my mom any more.Sorry for the rant. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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