Lizzie Posted July 13, 2010 Report Posted July 13, 2010 It's been 11 days since we lost my Grandma B. Grandma was my last remaining grandparent on my mom's side of the family and was perhaps the grandparent I was closest to. Who could not be close to her? In her prime years, she took care of EVERYONE...it didn't matter if you were related to her or not. She always made sure her guests were well fed and healthy when they stayed at her house. Her grandkids were like her children to her; she was a teacher that always brought out the best in us. Grandpa B died in April 2009 after having battled Alzheimer's disease for a very long time. After that, her mental and physical abilities began to decline. We didn't realize the severity of the decline until my mom and I went to visit her in December of 2009. My aunt had been purposefully neglecting her for her own selfish reasons, and the house that she was living in was an utter mess. My mom and I took it upon ourselves to put her in the nursing home, as we knew a 13 hour drive back to Kansas would not be a reasonable thing to subject her to. Throughout the spring 2010 semester, I told all of my friends at school that I couldn't wait for July to come, that I would spoil the heck out of her with disgusting amounts of love and affection while we visited her at the nursing home we moved her to. That week obviously never came. In mid-June, we learned that Grandma had been taken to the hospital with chest pains. Doctors gave us some grim news after running several tests on her--she had a heart attack. There were severe calcifications in her arteries, and because of her age (82) an operation would have done more harm than good. The situation was simply what it was. The day after the heart attack, she was moved to hospice care. My family and I went down there that week to make our peace with her. She held on for about a week and a half and passed away on July 2nd. When I saw her in the casket at her visitation, I couldn't help but feel relieved. She looked about 10 years younger; like she was resting and was at peace. And that she is...she is in a better place than where she had been prior to passing away. She's in a better place now, and thinking about the fact that she is with my grandpa brings me great comfort. Still, there are times when my mind subjects me to constant questioning, the "what ifs" and the potential "could have beens" that could have occurred throughout time that never did happen. My grief, my sadness hits me in waves where I can't help but break down and cry hysterically until the feeling passes. It's almost maddening, and at the same time I know that it's normal. I miss her so much that it hurts to breathe, but I know she's at peace now, and that's all that matters. Thanks for reading.
Kavish Posted July 14, 2010 Report Posted July 14, 2010 Hi Lizzie, Your grandma B is always going to be there with you. She is going to smile every time you do something and will bless you in so many infinite ways as we pass along this journey. Take care, Kavish
niamh Posted July 14, 2010 Report Posted July 14, 2010 hi Lizzie, I'm so sorry for the loss of your dotey Grandma.She sounds like such a sweet kind person and looks like it too from your photo, she just looks simply adorable. Grandparents always do don't they. I'm sorry you didn't get your time to spoil her rotten, that's so hard to be looking forward to and then suddenly she's taken away so fast. Of course there are always the what if questions and it's hard to deal with. just know that it's all normal. Allow yourself to cry, you lost your sweet loving Gran and allow those tears to come for however long. I'm glad you know it's all normal, so very hard but normal. I dont have any words of real comfort but we are all here sharing and caring. sending some ((((hugs)))) your way Niamh
Lizzie Posted July 14, 2010 Author Report Posted July 14, 2010 Thank you so much for the kind words. She was like a second mommy to me when I was growing up; she helped raise me and took me to school when both of my parents were working long hours (when we lived closer). She was a teacher that believed in the inner strength that everyone had; she helped my older brother get his GED and guided me on my first weight loss journey in high school. Her home was like a safe haven for me in the older years. I'm a big nature girl at heart and when I stayed with her I could have spent hours with her in that little living room, playing solitaire with her and eating half of the blueberries that we picked in the garden that day. All of the memories are memories that I will cherish for the rest of my days here on Earth. I can't wait to see her again, whenever that time may be.
Aquarius7 Posted July 15, 2010 Report Posted July 15, 2010 Hi Lizzie, First of all here is are some HUGS! ((((((( ))))))) I am very sorry to hear about your grandma. You and her were obviously very close. Do know that she is always with you and knew you loved her very much as she loved you. She is at peace.
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