Mitch as I read down the list of beautiful, heartfelt responses to your post, I was struck by the great love that all of you have felt for your spouses and how difficult it is to go through the pain of losing them especially when your children begin to live their own lives. (It is such a reminder of your own married lives and the joy of raising a family even in difficult times). As an older person who has seen family members and friends go through the pain of a spouse’s death, I realize that one never really gets over their loss (there is no time line) but the pain does lessen as time goes by. Meanwhile what do you do to get through the day to day loneliness? I have no answer for you but I do know that those who get involved in the lives of other people do have some measure of happiness even though in the beginning it pales in comparison to what they had before. Grief groups in churches and counselors -pastoral or therapists can provide safe places to talk with others about your grief. Do you still have couple friends who knew Tammy that you can stay connected to? You share a common bond with them. Music, dancing, physical activities and being outdoors enjoying nature are all ways to spark a sense of joy in life (even if it only lasts for a short time) and a hope for the future. God is in the midst of your sorrow even if you don’t feel connected. My hugs and prayers go out to you in this very painful time.