Butterfly9

Dear Animal I can relate with the pain being too raw. The pain is raw for me also. They say the pain/grief never really goes completely away. We just learn to live with it. You and your Father have done so many wonderful things together. You have a great relationship with your Father (present tense because he is alive and well in the afterlife). I know it is very difficult and painful when our loved ones are no longer here in the physical form. It is a big void that can never be filled. I have a hard time too with all the great memories I had with my Dad. I hope in time those memories will bring you smiles and not tears. Those pictures of you and your Father are very precious memories. It is a memory forever caught in a picture. Your pictures are absolutely beautiful. Your Father is very proud of you and continues to be very proud of you. He knows the difficult time you are having. He is helping you the best he can through your grief. He is closer than you think watching over you. You will see him again someday. Not sure if you believe in the afterlife. I truly believe. Each person is different in how they handle their grief. It is a very difficult journey we are all on. Sending you hugs, love, comfort and strength. Butterfly9

Hi Everyone, Today is my Dad's birthday, August 14th. Happy Birthday Dad!!! It is a very difficult day for my family and me. I never thought last year on his birthday that that would be his last birthday in the physical form. I have been crying many tears wishing it could be like old times where he would be here with us and we would have a celebration. I so yearn for those times and all the precious memories. I keep on saying, "he should be here with us and not there." Even though this is a sad day we are going to honor my Dad and have a celebration. We are making a special dinner, set the table nice, have cake, get him flowers and a birthday card. We will light a candle on the cake and sing him "Happy Birthday!!!" I know he will be there celebrating with us even if I can't see him. We had a "Celebration of Life" in honor of my Dad on July 25, 2010. We had a BBQ in my Parent's backyard. My Dad loves parties and wanted one last year but he just wasn't up to it. We made the things he always enjoyed. It was a nice day but very difficult because my Dad was not there. However, I know he was there in Spirit. He wouldn't miss his party. I sure wish I could hear his voice, laugh or see his beautiful smile again. I really miss him and think about him all the time. Life is so different without him here. It is hard to find happiness but I am trying. One really can't comprehend it until it has happened to them. I miss our conversations. We would talk about so many things. I miss so many things. Not being able to have him here to do the things we normally did, like go on day trips, walking/hiking, holidays, celebrations, talking, watching a movie, etc. He was always there for me and helped me when I needed advice. I know he is still guiding me just from a different place. Our loved ones enjoy and smile when we continue to have them in our lives even though they are in the afterlife. It brings them such love and joy to know that we are thinking about them and love them very much. They feel the same way. Their love continues to grow each day. That bond we have with them can never be broken. Sending you all hugs, love, comfort and strength. Butterfly9

Hi Everyone, This past Thursday has been 5 ½ months since my Dad has crossed over to the other side. I will not use died because there is no death. I know he continues to live just in a different dimension. I am still in disbelief and shock. This is the hardest and most painful journey I have ever been on. I can’t believe it has been that long and yet it seems like yesterday. I am trying hard to put one foot in front of the other as I struggle each day. I still cry every day. There are times where it is really bad and unbearable. I ask God/Infinite Light and my Dad for help. Then a little while later I get that extra push to get through the day and sometimes I can find a little happiness in my day. I know that is what my Dad would want. He continues to guide me as he always has just from a different place that is closer than you think. I remember when I was a kid, thinking about losing my parents. I never wanted that day to come because I knew how terrible it would be. I just wanted to stay a kid and protect myself from ever experiencing it. Life continues on even if we wished we could stay in a certain time or go back in time. I keep on asking myself, how do people do it? I keep on looking for answers or ways of how other people are also dealing with their loss of their precious loved ones. Some things work for some people and some things don’t. Each person is different in how they handle their grief but we all can relate to what others are going through. No two people are the same. I have so many wonderful memories of my precious Dad and I wish I could have many, many more. I can have more memories but in a different way. It might be through dreams he is communicating with me, butterflies, electrical things like flickering of lights, a special song with a special meaning, finding pennies, etc. There are so many ways our loved ones can contact us letting us know they are alive and well and still with us until we can be together again when it is our time. We just have to be patient and listen and look for those signs. They can be so subtle at times. I try hard to live life and to honor my Dad. He continues to be a part of my life. I talk to him all the time. I know he can hear me. I have been doing some meditation but I need to practice it more so I get the hang of it. I would like to meditate and talk with my Dad. It is possible. I am so proud he is my Dad!!! I am so proud to be his daughter. I have been blessed to have him in my life!!! He means the world to me and so much more!!! I just wish I could have had him here longer in the physical form and in good health. I know he is healed from his illness and he is in the most beautiful place. It is filled with such vibrant colors and light that is beyond our 3 dimensional world. It is a place that is full of love and peace. I know he is happy and smiling that beautiful smile of his!!! I love you Dad!!! I miss you very much!!! I’m so sorry for everyone who has lost a precious loved one. My Deepest Sympathy to you. Sending you all loving and healing prayers to help you on your difficult journey. Butterfly9

Dear Kansas, So sorry for the loss of your precious Father and Mother. Sending you hugs (((( )))). You are right, there are no coincidences. Wow 39 years to the day. Since you saw a beautiful double rainbow I believe that was your Mom and your Father smiling down on you all. She is now with your Father. They are together again, healed and happy. They are watching over you until you will all be together again. Sending hugs, love, comfort and strength. Butterfly9

Hi Peach, Everyone says the same thing, that they should have done this or that. It is a part of grieving. Your Mother understands completely. Just continue to talk to her because I know she is around you. I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to make you cry. I know what you mean when you feel you aren’t getting better. I feel the same way. I’m still in shock and disbelief. It is so strange. It is like this dream world I am living in. I wish I could wake up and my Dad would be here again and he would be healthy. I want my Dad back so much also. As they say some are meant to be healed on this side of the veil and others are meant to be healed on the other side of the veil. I know it is hard when our loved ones are no longer here in the physical form. However, what brings me some comfort is knowing that my Dad is alive and well just in a different dimension. The bond we share can never be broken. We will see them again someday. Hello from Heaven by Bill and Judy Guggenheim is a great book to read if you are open to After Death Communication. It might bring you a little comfort. Hang in there and be kind to yourself. Sending you hugs, love and strength. Butterfly9

Dear Peach, Sending you hugs of comfort ((((((( ))))))))), I am so sorry for the loss of your precious Mother. Welcome to this forum. There are a lot of great people here. Please don’t be hard on yourself. Your Mother understands that it was difficult for you to see her that way. Not sure if you believe in the afterlife. I truly believe in the afterlife. I use the present tense because your Mother does continue to live just in a different dimension. She is healed, happy and watching over you. Your Mother can hear you when you talk to her or think about her. Tell her all the things you weren’t able to say to her before she crossed over or write it in a letter. She will hear you. You know, there are really no goodbyes because she is closer than you think. I truly believe that your Mother will be at all the special events in your life. She would not miss it for the world. She will see you get married, have children and graduate college. Just because you can’t see her with your own earthly eyes does not mean she is not around you. It doesn’t matter that your Mother’s remains are 2600 miles away. You can make a little special place in your home with a picture of her, some flowers, a battery operated candle or whatever you choose. I have that at home for my Dad. It is like a part of him is here with me in that special place. Your Mother knows how much you love her and miss her. The bond you have with your Mother can never be broken. It grows stronger every day. Sending you hugs, love, comfort and strength. Butterfly9

Dear Aquarius7, Sending you comforting hugs (((( )))))))). I am so sorry for all the pain you are going through. I understand. It has been a little over 4 months now since my Dad crossed over and the pain and grief has not eased. Nothing is ever the same when we lose a precious loved one. It is really hard for me to have a good time and laugh. I feel dead inside. My Dad is also my best friend. We talked about so many things. Even though I know my Dad is healed and in a better place, the reality of him never being here again in the physical form just kills me inside. I can’t make new memories. My Mom , Dad and I would go to the city for lunch and walk on the Pier or the ocean or just walking/hiking. He really enjoyed his Cappuccino and looking out at the lake. Oh how I miss those days and my precious Daddy. I would love to turn back time and prevent his illness and have him here with my family and me. Life would be so wonderful. I am not motivated either about things. I work in the garden and do things in honor of my Dad. It is so hard not to dwell on our loved ones absence because it is ever where. Basically I just go through the motions daily and do basic things what is needed. I keep asking myself “how do people get through this?” Wouldn’t it at least be nice if we got just one day out of the year to spend with our loved ones in the afterlife? That would be great. When I feel so terrible I read my afterlife books. It makes me feel a little bit better. I always say “he should be here with us and not there”. I know I have to be thankful that I had my Dad in my life. It doesn’t matter how old they are when they cross over or graduate to the other side, it still wasn’t enough time. I will always want more. I can’t get those terrible pictures out of my mind when he was ill and in the hospital. I wanted so much to make him better, to heal him and take his pain away. There was nothing I could do. I had no control over the situation. It was out of my hands. There are times where I am angry. I guess that is all a part of the grief journey. Know that you are not alone on this difficult journey. Everyday more people are embarking on this journey. I have really been having terrible crying spells calling out to my Dad. I pray for signs that he is still around me. I haven’t had a dream in awhile. I keep on asking. Soon I will start practicing mediation and see if I can reach him that way. However, this past weekend I felt my Dad sent me two beautiful butterflies my way. One was fluttering around me and the plum tree. Then they were flying around the passion flower vine. They stayed for awhile. I haven’t seen them before or since. I was thinking of getting a live butterfly kit. Once they turn into butterflies you release them in the yard. I think I would like to do that in honor of my Dad. They do say transition into the afterlife is like a caterpillar turning into a butterfly (new form). Sending you hugs, love comfort and strength. Butterfly9

Dear Niamh, I just wanted to say that “The Old Man” song that played on your iPod is definitely your Daddy saying “hi”. There are no coincidences. The words of the song are so beautiful and have such meaning. It was meant for you to hear. I think that is wonderful! Your Dad is communicating to you. I know you say it is never enough, that you want more or bigger ADCs. I feel the same way. I too would love to have my Dad back here in the physical form and be healed. I am having a hard time accepting it. I have been having a bad time and crying a lot because I miss him so much. Father’s Day was really hard too. I bought him beautiful flowers and a nice card. I’m sure he enjoyed them. The dinner table was set nicely and a plate was set for him as well. I honestly feel cheated because my Dad is no longer here where I can see him with my own eyes. I have never felt a hug. Some people are more sensitive to this and are able to feel hugs. It doesn’t mean that your Dad hasn’t given you a warm, comforting hug. I’m sure he has on more than one occasion. I keep asking my Dad for signs or to visit me in my dreams. Keep asking your Dad for signs or to visit you in your dreams before you go to bed. Also, say to yourself three times, “I will remember my dreams.” Be patient. When I am really feeling terrible, I read my aftterlife books to bring me some comfort. I know my Dad lives. I just read a beautiful post on the after death website where someone lost their Dad on 5/13/10. She had a dream visit where she said to her Dad that she wished he was here with them and that she missed him so much. Her Dad smiled and said, “ I am always right here and don’t worry I’m fine.” How wonderful. My life has changed and I want to continue to have a relationship with my Dad. Sure, it will never be the same like when he was here but reality is, it is better than nothing. I am holding on to that special relationship I have with my Dad. I am working on ways to communicate with him and for him to communicate with me. It is possible to communicate with our Dads/loved ones in the afterlife. They say the veil is getting thinner between the two dimensions. I know you can communicate also through meditation. I am soon going to start practicing meditation. We shall see. Sending you hugs, love, comfort and strength on this difficult journey we are traveling. Butterfly9

Hi Niamh, You are absolutely right that this life here is only temporary. We are here to learn. When we have learned all what we need to, it will be time for us to graduate also into the afterlife where we can be with all our loved ones again who have crossed over before us. Just knowing that keeps me going, even if it is at a turtle’s pace. I too do not use the words died, dead and death. I don’t like those words. There is no death. I also like crossed over, other side of the veil, or transition into the next dimension. Those all show continuation of life because we all do continue to live once we cross over. I have read it is like stepping into another room. They are more alive there because they don’t have a physical body to cause pain but a spiritual body that is so alive and free. I think that is wonderful that you can hear your Aunt’s voice in your head. It is not wishful thinking or just in your head. That was your Aunt communicating to you to comfort you. She knows you are grieving about your Dad. Maybe try and talk to her and maybe she can send you some comforting words to help you? No, you must not ever give up hope of hearing from your Dad. That is true that the bond is so strong and special and cannot ever be broken. It has only changed (us in the physical world and our Dads in the Afterlife/Spiritual world) and we don’t truly understand it. You’re welcome. That sounds wonderful laminating cards throughout the year to bring to your Dad. I know he will really enjoy them! Thank you. I too hope things get better at work. I’m grieving and now I have to worry about work also. It isn’t easy. I still have a job but I don’t know how things will go with new management. I guess I can only wait and see and as you say, take it one day at a time. That is so sweet that your Dad would send you an e-mail at work to see how you were doing when things were tough at work. I know what you mean when they aren’t here in the physical form to discuss these things with them and get their input. Sometimes I sit back and try to think what my Dad would say to comfort me. Maybe, just maybe if we listen real closely, we can hear what they are saying. It can come through as our voice in our heads but actually be our Dads communicating to us. Sending you also lots of Daddy girl hugs and love. Butterfly9

Hi Ellen, I am so sorry to hear about your Dad and your Mom. Sending you a great big hug. Losing parents and all loved ones is devastating. Losing your Dad the day before your birthday and your Mom 5 days before your daughter’s birthday is terrible. Me too, not a day goes by that I don’t think of my Dad. It must have been really hard when your Dad passed away suddenly. That must have been so, so difficult having to look into your mothers eyes while holding her hand and telling it is okay to cross over. I can’t even imagine that. I don’t think I could have handled that if my Dad was awake. I’m so sorry for the pain you are going through. I wish I could say some comforting words. I know what you mean that you can’t believe she is gone. I say it all the time about my Dad. He should be here with us. It is shocking. Your Mom is not in any pain anymore and she is with your Dad now. She is healed, happy and in the most beautiful place. Now you have two special Guardian Angels watching over you until you all can be together again someday. I know it doesn’t bring a lot of comfort because you would like your Mom to be healed and here in the physical form. You say you have had dreams with your Dad in them but not the type you want. What do you mean? They say that there is a small window where the souls are able to reach us via our subconscious which is a visitation when we are dreaming. However, at some point, our conscious brain kicks in and starts to change the dream to our fears and worries. That is why we can have a good dream and then it starts to turn bad where we find our loved ones are sick again. The part that is bad is what your brain created. The good part is the actual visitation. The part of the visitation that is real will make you feel wonderful. It can be a short visitation just to say “hi’. I’m so glad you have read many books about the afterlife and you truly believe you will see your loved ones again someday. I totally believe that. I’m sure that picture you have of your Dad is precious. Yes, your Dad is listening to you every time you talk to him. Even if you are thinking about him in your head he can hear you. I wish I could answer why we feel the presence of one person and lot and not the other. I do believe your Dad is still around you even if you can’t feel his presence like your Mom’s presence. They say at times you can feel their presence and then there can be times where you feel they aren’t around or not that much. They are around but there are times where we need to tread ahead on our own a little while and find that Faith. However, they are nearby helping us through this difficult time even if their presence isn’t felt. Then you might get a sign again or feel their presence. Thank you for your words of encouragement that time is a healer and to remember to talk about our loved ones. There are times where I do think, how can I move ahead without my Dad being here in the physical form? It is so difficult. It is such a struggle. You are absolutely right that losing a parent/loved one is like losing a chunk of yourself that will never be replaced. Sending you hugs, love, comfort and strength, Butterfly9

Hi Niamh, Yes, I will always use the present tense when I talk about my Dad. I talk to my Mom all the time about my Dad in the present tense. I truly believe our Dads/loved ones are around us and yes, they are not gone. There is no death, just a transition into another dimension we call home. That is our real home. The physical body may have died but that is not who we really are. The soul is the true essence of our being where it has all the love, memories and our personality; everything of who we are. The physical body is merely the housing for our soul so we can do all the things here what we need to do. Since we are in the physical we really miss them not being here in the physical form. Right now I am going through some hard times at work with layoffs and management changes. I don’t like change and it has been really hard. I wish my Dad were here so I could talk with him about it. My Dad knows how hard it has been and I’m sure he is helping me through this. Thank goodness I have my Mom to talk to. When you say you hope you hear that voice, do you mean you can hear your Aunt’s voice in your head at times, who passed away? That is wonderful. Maybe in time you will also hear your Dad’s voice. Yes, I know what you mean when they are in the hospital and you think they will pull through and be okay, then it turns around and does the opposite. You think, how can this happen? He should be here with us and not on the other side. Those life changing events really shake our Faith and we have to try so hard to get back up and put the pieces together again. It is so hard. Yes, just be patient for the signs. Keep asking your Daddy to send you some signs that you know they will be from him. It takes times. It sounds like he has sent you some signs already with the two songs. Yes, Father’s Day in the US is also on June 20th. Going Saturday to the cemetery so you can have some alone time with your Dad will be great. As you say, I’m sure there will be a lot of people at the cemetery on Sunday. Your Dad will really enjoy your being there and celebrating this special day in honor of him with his very special daughter. My Mom has my Dad’s ashes in an urn at home. We currently have flowers there and I have a battery operated candle that has been lit since he crossed over. However, I will put the flowers in the living room with the card as always when we celebrate those occasions. Maybe you can have the Father’s Day card laminated so you can keep it there at the cemetery for awhile? You can punch a hole in the upper corner so you can fasten it with a nice ribbon and attached it to a small stake in front or on the side of the grave. They might also have a clear plastic or vinyl insert at an office supply store where you can put the whole card in to protect it. Your Dad understands perfectly how hard it has been for you and that you couldn’t bring yourself to look at birthday cards. The very special bond we have with our Daddies/loved ones grows stronger each day. Nothing can break it not even being in different dimensions. That is so wonderful, isn’t it? The love they have for us continues to grow stronger each day. Sending you hugs, love, strength and comfort. Butterfly9

Dear 2sweetgirls, I’m so sorry for the loss of your precious Mom and the hard time you are having. I wish you a Happy Birthday even though you would rather not celebrate. I felt terrible on my birthday also. It just isn’t the same with them not being here. Picture your Mom holding a lighted birthday cake with a big smile on her face. She wouldn’t miss your birthday. You may not see her with your eyes but she is there. I talk to my Dad all the time. Talk to your Mom about things and she will listen. She understands what you are going through and how difficult it is. We all have those “slipping back” days. It is normal. I have moments where I am somewhat okay and then it hits me again, like a big slap in the face. Sending you a great big hug your way. Take care of yourself. Butterfly9

Hi LouLou, Butterflies are one of my favorite things also. I have butterfly items at home and work. I’m glad you are feeling better about the afterlife. Yes, my Dad holding the birthday cake made my day! I know what you meant about having a terribly birthday and then to have your Dad’s birthday a week later. That must have been really hard. I too am dreading Father’s Day. I would be shopping for a gift for my Dad and now he isn’t here in the physical form. You see ads and commercials. However, even though they are not here in the physical form, they are here in the spiritual form. Our Dads are here for us always. I will still celebrate Father’s Day because I still have a Dad. I will get him some flowers and a card. Our loved ones who have crossed over love when we celebrate them and include them in our lives. It is important to them and important to us. They like to continue to be a part of the Family. They will always be part of the Family. Your Dad definitely sees how much you love and miss him. You can still tell your Dad things that you weren’t able to and how much he means (present tense because he is alive and well) to you. Your Dad can hear you. Maybe light a candle and tell him all the things that you need to. That is great that you can hear your Dad’s voice in your head. I truly believe that it is your Dad. We have a special bond of love with our Dads that can never be broken. I too look forward to reading all the links Marty posted. Hugs to you. Butterfly9

Hi LouLou, I forgot to mention that in the reading, George Anderson said my Dad was holding a lighted birthday cake! Is that neat or what! That tells me that my Dad was there on my birthday and in the reading he was telling me that and wishing me a “happy birthday!” I have this beautiful picture in my mind with him smiling and holding the lighted birthday cake! I guess some of us seem to question things when a precious loved one passes away. We really need to know for sure if life after death is true. Our Faith gets a good shaking and we have to try hard to get back up on our feet again and find Faith again. That is great your Dad came to you in a dream. Sometimes they don’t speak. I have had a dream with my Dad smiling and sitting on the couch. Even if the dream is short and no words are spoken, it is nice to see them. Maybe he looked sad because he knows how hard it has been for you. He showed himself to you as being healthy and younger. Absolutely those songs were sent to you especially from your Dad. They say there are no coincidences. The hazards lights coming on when you were talking about your Dad is definitely him saying “I’m right here.” Be patient and pray to your Dad for more signs and to visit you in your dreams. It might take some time. I too always want more but they will send you a sign in their own time. Just because you have not received any signs lately does not mean your Dad is not around you. He is around you more than you think. I enjoy the subject on the afterlife and read a lot about it. They do hear us and see us. They know what is going on in our lives because they continue on loving us. Nothing has changed. They are the same person they were when they were here in the physical form. I too really love and miss my Dad. He knows that and your Dad knows that also. I too think I was meant to come across this forum so I can get wonderful support from all of you here! Thank you all so much! It means a lot to me! Sending you hugs, love, comfort and strength. Buffterfly9

Hi Kim, Welcome to this site. The people here are very caring and are always here to listen. I’m so sorry to hear about your precious Dad. Your Dad was so young and full of life and even just retired not so long ago. Your story made me cry. It doesn’t matter how old we, we will still miss our Dads/Moms and loved ones when they pass away. They have been such a big part of our lives and they leave a big void. It has been 3 months for me yesterday. I still can’t believe it. I don’t think I ever will believe it. It just seems so unreal. I miss and love my Dad so much. Such a nice picture of your Dad enjoying himself on the boat with his beautiful smile. I also like the picture of you and your Dad looking out at the beautiful sky (God). Those are precious moments to treasure. I know it might be hard now to think of all the memories. It still is for me. I too miss that I can no longer create new memories with my Dad, hear is voice and laugh or see his beautiful smile. I’m glad that you are not alone and have your husband, family, friends and neighbors there to give you support. The grief will come in waves and each person is different how they deal with it. Take care of yourself and thanks for sharing. Your Dad is healed and in a better place. He is watching over you until you can be together again someday. Sending you hugs, love, comfort and strength. Butterfly9

Hi Niamh, I think a lot of us do believe in the afterlife but when we lose a precious loved one; our lives have been shattered and then we have our doubts. That is normal. We all want proof. One has to be patient and keep praying to our loved ones asking them to show a sign. It can take some time and you have to look for the signs even if it is a subtle one. Those two songs were definitely meant for you and were from your Dad. I had some signs from my special friend. I was walking outside and this bird flew close to my face chirping and then flew away. It came back two more times and did the same thing. Also, I went to a concert with a couple of people and out of the blue, one person was signing this song. It was a song that my friend and I would sing. It just came to her to sing it. I know that was a sign from my friend. My friend is around me often and not just when I am down. I know when he is not around and then I think of him and then he is around because the tingling sensation is felt. It is really neat. I really miss my pets also. One time I could feel the weight of the cat on my legs and then when I moved it was gone. That was when I was half asleep. I do honestly believe your Dad is around you. He wants to help you through this difficult time. Sometimes we just have to accept the small signs and also rely on Faith. No, no one knows a100%. We will know and have our questions answered after we have crossed over. Only you know if and when you are ready to read some books. That is okay. If you do decide to do some reading I recommend, Lessons from the Light and Walking in the Garden of Souls by George Anderson. Those books are a good start. Just keep praying and asking for a sign from your precious Daddy. Be patient and let yourself be open to even the smallest of signs. I’m sure he is trying to get through to you to let you know he is alive and well and loves you very much. Sometimes we can get frustrated when we don’t get a sign. Our loved ones will give us a sign in due time. That is true. George Anderson says you don’t need him or any other medium to talk to your loved ones. You can do it on your own. Meditation is also a good way for our loved ones to come through to us and make contact. I have to work on that because my mind gets cluttered with all these thoughts. It takes practice. If you put your mind to it you can do anything. Yes, LouLou’s trip to see the Medium, Allison DuBois is exciting. I too hope you get a special message from your precious Dad. I’m glad it brings a smile to your face when you write about it. I do hope I will feel my Dad’s presence physically too. It would be very comforting. Hugs, love, comfort and strength to you. Butterfly9

Hi Marty, Thank you for all the past links and books on the After Life! I really appreciate the information. Hugs to you, Butterfly9

Hi Lou Lou, That is great, you have been having ADCs over the years. You see, your Dad has also sent you some signs. I know we always want this great big sign from our loved ones to really prove that they continue to live on. Sometimes we get them and other times they can be subtle. We will never really get all of our questions answered because maybe we also have to have Faith. Sometimes I look at the wind and say I can’t see it but I know it is there. We can see the effects of the wind by seeing the trees blowing back and forth but we can’t actually see it. I would love to have signs daily from my Dad but I know that isn’t going to happen. I do pray and ask for signs. It was a week or so after my Dad passed away and the air filter was making this strange sound. I have had it for years but it never made that sound before. It usually hisses when it needs to be cleaned but it was making this kind of roaring sound. I believe it was my Dad saying he is around. My sister had her CD player in the kitchen turn the CD around and around and it wasn’t even on. She also had the light in the oven flicker. I’m so excited for you that your reading is coming up soon with Allison Dubois! I was nervous too about my reading and what to expect. I had my reading over the phone with George Anderson. He lives in New York and that would be too far for me to travel. It would have been nice to actually have the reading in person. The reading on the phone is just as good and I was able to record it. It lasted for about an hour and 20 minutes. George does not get a name or any info. He just gets the phone number to call. You can also use a fake name and a friend’s address. Also, during the reading, I was not supposed to say anything but just acknowledge if the info is understood or not by answering yes or no. He wants to get the information from the souls. Three generations of Dads came through. My Dad was the youngest of the generations and was coming through as the real McCoy. My Dad described his passing. He said he had a rough time before his passing and he is glad it is over. The week prior my Dad was really not feeling well (my note). He said he was in a sleep-like state before he passed. My Dad said he knows we would like to have him here in the physical form but that is the best he can do and it is better than nothing. He said if he is not A+ (meaning in good health) then he does not want to be here. I know my Dad had a hard time being sick when he couldn’t do the things he enjoyed so that info was right on. My Dad said it was his time to go otherwise he would have not passed. My Dad said he can walk again and is back to his old self. That brought tears to my eyes. My Dad had a hard time walking shortly before he passed. He said he had a full life and that his family means a lot to him. There were other things he said but I just told you a couple of important points. Other names came through like my Uncle who passed away very young at the age of 47. George said that my Dad has visited me in dreams. My brother had the first dream where my Dad said he is feeling better and he can go to Europe in the Fall. My Parents would go to Europe every other year to visit Family and Friends. They were going to go this year. My Dad said he is a Guardian Angel for me and my Family until we can be together again. All this information came through without me even saying anything was just amazing. My special Friend also came through. He said I couldn’t save him. I tried so hard to help him recover from his cancer. He said it was too late when he was diagnosed. He thanked me for trying to help him. There was more to the reading but I just told you some important points. I truly believe that you are meant to see Allison. I wish you a great reading from your Dad and hope Niamh’s Dad sends her a message as well. Some good information to check out if you are interested. George Anderson’s website. http://www.georgeanderson.com/ George is also on Face Book where you can ask him a question. He personally answers people’s questions. You can kind his Face Book page on his website. Books written by George Anderson. These books are excellent. Lessons from the Light Walking in the Garden of Souls Books written about George Anderson and his Readings. We Don’t Die We Are Not Forgotten Our Children Forever Website from the authors of Hello From Heaven. There is a message board with people posting their ADCs. http://www.after-death.com/ There are so many great books out there on the After Life. I enjoy reading and need to order some more books. Hugs to you, Butterfly9

Hi Elizabeth, Thank you for your condolences. I really appreciate it. I hope you enjoy the book. It will describe all the different ADCs and actual stories of people who have experienced them. It is really uplifting. Thank you. My Memorial Day was not that good because I was really missing my Dad. I just can’t believe it is real. I hope you had a nice Memorial Day. Hi Lou Lou, I have done a lot of reading on the subject and have had some ADCs from a good friend of mine who passed away as well as dear pets. I would say Faith also has something to do with it. I can feel my friend’s presence. It is like a tingling sensation on the top, left side of my head. I keep on trying to feel my Dad’s presence. Maybe I am missing something. However, just because I can’t feel his presence, I know he is around me. I just have this feeling. Sometimes my cats will look at the doorway and act like they see something and I don’t. With pets, I have had them jump on the bed when I was in between sleep, hear them purring , dreams and actually heard a meow telepathically once. I’m glad you are going to see a famous Medium soon. I think that will help a lot with believing in the afterlife. Reading books on the subject also helps. Readings from a Medium can bring a lot of comfort. I had a reading in April with my Dad with a well known Medium also. It was great. Not sure if we can mention names here. Look forward to hearing your experience the Medium. Hugs, Butterfly9

Dear Niamh, I'm so sorry for your pain and what you are going through. Sending hugs of comfort your way to help you through this difficult time. Those anniversary dates are really hard. The 3-month mark is coming up for me this Thursday. It's okay to curl up in bed and cry. Let it all out. Be kind to yourself. Hugs to you. Butterfly9

Hi Lou Lou, Thank you for the warm welcome and condolences. I really appreciate it. I am so sorry for the loss of your dear Dad. I know how hard it is. I miss my Dad everyday also and cry a lot. I don’t even care if people see me crying. There are times when this desperation comes over me and the tears start flowing and I just wished my Dad were here. I get this feeling of emptiness. My Dad has left a big void in my life. It is very difficult to deal with. Thank you for responding to my post. It means a lot to me. The people here are so caring. Sending you hugs, love, comfort and strength. Butterfly9

Hi Kavish, I'm glad you also believe in the afterlife and I agree with you what you are saying. It brings me lots of comfort. Yes, I believe those words were meant for you and for her. How beautiful and wonderful. Thanks for sharing. Take care, Butterfly9

Hi Niamh, Thank you for the warm welcome and condolences. It really means a lot to me. Yes, that is true; there are so many people all over the world going through the same thing. Everyone deals with their loss in different ways. No two people are the same. So sorry for the loss of your precious Dad also. I read your post about your Dad and it brought tears to my eyes. It too was like I wrote some of the things you were experiencing. Everyone here has a sad story to tell and I cry when I read them. I have that experience also. It hits me again like I am in shock and can't believe this is true. They say it comes in waves. This life that I am living is so foreign. It is so different. It is a life that I got thrown into when I didn't want it. I want my old life back but I know that isn't going to happen. Your Dad is alive and well just in another dimension parallel to here. He can hear you when you talk to him. He knows how hard it has been since he has crossed over. He is by your side even if you can't feel him or see him. You and your Dad share a very special bond of love that can never be broken. Yes, we can't fully understand. There is no death just a rebirth to the afterlife where we continue to live on. I try to think of my Dad living in a foreign country. I feel the same way you do about Christmas. My Dad loved Christmas and always loved decorating the Christmas tree with Christmas music playing on the stereo. Last year he had a hard time decorating the tree because he had trouble breathing and got tired easily. This year I can't bear it. I don't want to celebrate Christmas but my Family says my Dad wouldn't want us to not celebrate. They said we need to do it for him. Right now I don't want to think about it. It hurts too much. I pray at night and I ask my Dad to come visit me in my dreams. One has to be open to the subtle signs of communication. Often times we miss the sign. There can be flickering of lights, something electrical, a special song that comes on the radio with a special meaning, dreams, etc. One time I was driving to work and I was crying and I thought to myself, "be happy for him." However, what popped up in my head was "be happy for me." I believe my Dad put the "me" in my head. He wants me to be happy for him because he doesn't have to suffer anymore. I wasn't even thinking of the word me. Grief can block subtle signs. I can't feel my Dad's presence either but I know he has to be around me. There is a good book to read about ADCs if you are interested. ADC is After Death Communication. The book is called, Hello From Heaven by Bill and Judy Guggenheim. It is an excellent book and brought me lots of comfort. Our Dad's love us very much and they will never leave us. I'm sending you hugs, love, comfort and strength. Butterfly9

Hi Aquarius7, Thank you so much for the cyber hug and condolences. It really means a lot to me. I am so sorry for the loss of your dear Dad. It doesn't matter how long ago they have passed away, it still hurts. We will miss them everyday of our lives because we love them so much. That is normal. I'm so sorry to hear about your dear Mom being ill. I wish I could say something to bring you some comfort. I am always here to listen when you need to talk. Sending you also a cyber hug (((((((( ))))))))). Our Parents mean so much to us and have been such a big part of our lives. I haven't been motivated for a while since my Dad was sick and passed away. I eat lots of junk food to bring me some comfort. Now my clothes don't fit anymore. I don't really care about things. It is a struggle each day. I need to find some meaning in my life. I am thinking about doing some charity work to help others. I want do things to honor my Dad and make him proud. Everyone we love is never gone when they cross over to the other side. They still exist and they are the same person. They continue to love us as they did here. They are always with us helping us through the difficult times. Just because we can't feel their presence does not mean they are not around. I know it isn't the same when they are not here in the physical form but to know they continue to live just in another place brings me comfort. Nothing we love is ever gone. We are always connected to them through our hearts and souls. They are closer to us than we think. We will be together again someday. I'm sending you hugs, love, comfort and strength to you and your Mom. Butterfly9

Hi Robert27, Thank you so much for your warm welcome and condolences. Yes, there are so many kind and caring people on this board. Take care, Butterfly9