Hi Babs Wow just reading your story is incredible.... I know what you are going thru... I lost my mom in Dec 2005... She was murdered... by my father....Long story.....wont get into it here... this is for you and it is your moment to to be heard...... I just wanted to let you know that your Mom must have been wonderful for in the end she had all of you and your family there for her....Your story is truly inspirational.... I can relate to your hubby not understanding what an emotional ride you are on... I honestly believe that most guys want to "fix it for you" and when they realize this is something they cannot fix, they just avoid the situation. It really bothers my hubby when he sees me crying and he asks what is wrong but it is so weird that we expect that they should know... I think deep down they do but they deal with situations so differently that they are just lost for words and don't know how to fix it..... If only they could realize that is going to take a long time.... it is quite simple to us, just a hug, hold us and tell us everything will be ok.... Keep in mind it seems so simple to us that we just need some emotional support but to them it is easier to not talk about it. I was so consumed with anger, rage, you name it....yet now I find all days are different than in the beginning... It will get easier for you... trust me on that, but you will have bad days too where you are consumed with grief. My hubby told me that I just need to put my mom in a special spot in my mind and heart, where I can grieve her when I need to yet start to move forward in my life.... He told me he wasn't asking me to forget her or quit cherishing her but he found it very difficult to watch it tear my life apart.... He was right.... Be strong when you can, be sad when you need to be.... everything happens as it should... Hopefully this site will help both of us... and to all the many wonderful caring people who manage to give us words of encouragement and wisdom...... Thank you..... Penny