Will be a month for me on 7/12 since my companion, my soulmate, my first and final love, Richard, left me suddenly and unexpectedly. He is 52. I will be 53 in August. We were together for 3 years. I wish we had been blessed with 8 years. So much we wanted to be for each other and do together. We were so happy and fulfilled. We were not planning on being married, we had both been married when we were younger and decided that at our ages now, we didn’t need marriage to prove we were solely committed to one another, but we did look at rings 2 weeks before he left. For the most part, though, everything you say mirrors our relationship.
Exactly the way I feel. I just want him back. I will admit for selfish reasons only. I love him and he fulfilled me, brought me total joy and I want that back to continue our lives together. We have unfinished plans. When I think about those plans, I just want to die and be with him it hurts so bad.
I hate my job. I was making plans to move to be with Richard and was looking to secure employment in his area and as soon as that happened I was going to quit. Now what do I have left, the job I hate. The person I love, however is gone. I’ve been working from home due to Covid but I just CANNOT physically go back to that job. For the most part I get up sad, log onto the computer, do a few items, go outside to sit and listen to the birds and watch them, think about Richard and what was to be and become even sadder, try to do more work, go back outside, and then log off and go back to bed still sad and/or have a crying meltdown or recover from having had one before 5 o’clock. Notice I said nothing about eating or drinking. The desire is not there.
I would never think of falling in love again. Richard was the first man in all my adult life who made me feel loved, cherished and adored unconditionally and it took long enough for us to find each other and then get to that point. At my age now, the same desire is just not there. He was it for me and I was it for him and we committed to being together for the rest of our lives. We needed more time.
I will never be that happy joyful person who brought joy to others again. Being a part of Richard filled me with so much love and joy that it was easy to share that overflow with others. That love and joy left with him that day in June. I will never have it again. I just exist now with no real purpose that could even provide me with half that amount of love and joy. I know my love and devotion to our Savior should provide me with joy that is to share with others, and maybe that will again some day, but the true joy, smile and happiness of being a woman in love is to never be again.