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  1. Thank you for this reply. If you don't mind me asking, what e-books did you find?
  2. I feel like my post sounded selfish because I just talked about my loss and feelings. I wonder how you are doing and how you have been coping? Allow yourself to grieve and take care of yourself. This blog has been helpful to me knowing that others have gotten through the pain. My heart goes out to you.
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    My cat Rocky

    I am so sad today. It has been almost 4 weeks since I put Rocky down and sometimes I feel like I am not getting better. Yesterday I was cleaning and I became so sad because I was looking at the scratching posts and mice that Rocky used to love and use so much. I have one scratching post that he used to love to lay on and now it mostly sits empty. And I have these scratching pads that he used to love to use and I had to replace them often, but now they aren't used as much. My other two cats use these things and enjoy them, but not as much it seems. Oh how I long for his presence and long to hol
  4. I have been reading your blog today because I woke up feeling so sad about my cat Rocky. In two days he will have been gone for a month now. I had him put down on a Tuesday almost 4 weeks ago and it has been awful. Every Tuesday that passes by brings me heartache. I long for him so much. The missing him and remembering him is so hard. I am so sorry for your loss and all of your feelings sound so familiar to me. I wish you all the best. Kayc has been responding to my post too, and she has been very helpful. Give yourself the love and care you so deserve. All the questions we have after they are
  5. The guilt I felt after losing Rocky was awful. I did so much research on pancreatitis and bought food and probiotics and supplements hoping to cure him. Gave him is meds around the clock and got test after test done. The cost was nothing to me. I just wanted to save him. He was only 12 and I still feel like I missed out on so much time that I could have had with him. Most of the time I had him I was in an awful marriage and my ex did not like cats, so they were not allowed in our room. Plus, he had a huge dog that ruled the house so Rocky and my other two cats mostly stayed upstairs or away fr
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    My cat Rocky

    Kayc. Thank you so much for tis reply. It helps me to know that you have been able to move on and love another dog, who looks very handsome and adorable. I long for Rocky so much it is awful. Nobody was like he was to me. I feel myself moving ahead slowly, but it is so HARD, like you said. I just don't want to feel this sad anymore. I don't want this ache in my heart. I know it will get better with time and I know others have endured so much worst. I think losing a dog and a husband would be much, much worst. I can't imagine what you have been through. I admire you.
  7. Hi Danni f. I'm so sorry for the loss of your dog. I feel such pain over my cat that I think it would be even more difficult grieving over a dog. I hope I don't make you feel worst in any way. It is so, so HARD. I was so distraught that I found a therapist that specializes in grief and losing a pet. She has been helping me. I also downloaded about 4 books on grief and loss of a pet. I don't think I will ever get over losing Rocky. He was my best friend. Always there with unconditional love. And I did not want to give up on him but it hurt me to see him suffer. And it left me full of guilt. I k
  8. Hi. I so hope you are doing ok and I sympathize with your loss. Losing my cat has been the worst, and it is so hard when others don't understand. I want to tell you that mine has been gone 3 weeks, and I am slowly getting better. I have never felt such sadness and emptiness, but allowing myself to grieve and cry and reading a bunch of articles on pet loss gave me some comfort. I wish you the best.
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    My cat Rocky

    Thank you so much for these replies. I was afraid of not getting any replies or support. It is amazing how alone you feel after the love your life dies. Rocky was with me through so many changes in my life, including my divorce. I thought when I went through my divorce and my ex-husband left that I would never get over the lonliness, but this has been so much worse. Rocky was so perfect. He could do no wrong and I somehow thought he would just always be there. And then one day he was sick and not eating, while the day before he was playing and seemed fine. And then a month later he wasn't gett
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    My cat Rocky

    Thank you so much for this. Hearing any kind of comfort helps me with the pain. I appreciate your response. I'm hoping every day will bring a little more peace.
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    My cat Rocky

    Hi. This is my first time using a blog. I am searching for anything to help me with my sadness over losing my 12 year old cat 3 weeks ago. I am particularly responding to the post from Shellbell7 because it sounds so much like what happened to my cat. His name was Rocky. I never felt so sad in my life over the loss of him. I am overwhelmed with thoughts of him and wanting to see him again and pet him again. I had him 12 years. He was black, long-haired, green eyes. He always came when I called him and always cuddled with me. He loved his belly being rubbed. He threw up a lot also. He got a lot
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