SusanK

teny, it is so hard. I am at 4.5 months and I am not the same person either. I am ancient now,aged 20 years since he died. I miss him and relive all that happened in the month prior to his death. He was my life. I am absent a support system as there is no family. I am alone most of the time. People do expect us to get over it like a cold. Maybe they never loved anyone or have not yet had a loss. A lady I know told me that she prays to my husband to help me. Her rational is that with the life he led he is in heaven so he is a saint. She tells him to help me and watch over me. Today she told me that she reminded him that he is "new up there" so he does not have much to do and wants him to keep an eye on me. In a way that i cannot explain her words were comforting. Be well s.

Hi I need to find a support group in Cleveland Ohio, USA. Does anyone know of a place? Thanks s.

Lily, I read your post and my own feelings. The only reason I am here is because I don't want to mess up and end up in a nursing home with someone turning me from one bedsore to another. Losing my husband in November was horrible. People expect me to just get over it too. Two days ago a team leader for counseling services at the local hospice advised me not to return to an open and ongoing group as I am a "square peg trying to force myself into a round hole". I hope you find some support. It is not very easy to do. Please don't ever apologize for posting your feelings. Take care s.