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Four days ago I lost my best friend. He was hit by a car in front of my house. He was my 6 year old golden retriever/poodle cross. He was hit by a driver who stopped to look at the damage to his car and then drove off leaving my beloved Marley lying in the middle of the highway. A wonderful lady was thankfully following this motorist and quickly stopped her vehicle and blocked the highway with her car so he would not be hit a second time. My husband was called to the scene shortly after when the police realized Marley lived across the street. What tipped the officer off was my other two dogs were sitting at the end of the driveway, just watching their buddy lying there. They didn't move ... just stood there watching. My heart breaks for them. Marley died within an hour of being hit. His internal injuries were great. There were two police officers who stopped to help, two truck drivers, one man with a blanket, and this wonderful woman who put her own life in her hands by blocking traffic with her car. If I only knew who they all were so I could thank them in person. Sadly, Marley could not be saved. But not from the lack of compassion shown by those passersby. I feel anger for the man who hit my dog. Not because he hit him ... Marley shouldn't have been on the road, none of my dogs should have been out there ... but because he didn't stop to try to help my beautiful, wonderful dog. I'm sure that if he knew Marley he would have stopped. This dog was the kindest, sweetest, most gentle, loving dog I have ever, ever known. My world will never be the same without him in it. My sadness is intense. I am trying to be strong for my other two dogs who I know are grieving too but oh my god, this is the hardest thing I have ever been faced with. I have lost human loved ones before, but the grief was never this intense. Each day actually gets a little worse, not better. I think because I am starting to miss him. I'm hoping that by writing about Marley I will somehow get some comfort in it. I wish more people got to meet Marley. There will never be another dog like my sweet,post-15334-132260121026_thumb.jpg sweet little boy. God bless you Marley. I will miss you terribly!

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I am right there with you. . Just put my heart dog to sleep yesterday. Jonas was my majestic 11 year old German Shepherd. I loved him like one of my children and the grief and pain is so unbearable. I know that it will get better in time, but I can't believe he is gone. It was time, but you always wish you had a little bit more time to spend with them. I have had many dogs in my life, but he truly was the special one. My mix shepherd is having a hard time too. Jonas raised her and showed her the ropes. I love her too, but again there is always that one dog that you love and connect with and Jonas was mine. I'm sure the pain will subside, and the happy memories will come around, but right now I feel at such a loss. My husband is my rock to lean on and for that I am grateful and I also know Jonas will be at the rainbow bridge waiting for me to escort me into heaven and that too gives me peace. My thoughts and prayers are with you!!

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Hi, I am so srry for your loss. I dont celebrate Christmas anymore because it is a time where I acuately feel the losses I have had. Instead I concentrate even dau on enjoysing the dalings I have left. These two things are not exclusive. I lost my theapy dog last year to cancer, I lost a beloved shelter 12 years ago. Even tho I believe both are around me, both wait patiently on the rainbow bridge, their loss has carved holes in my heart. A number of years ago I had the first dog I rescue who was a problem child. He was turning into such a good dog, in fact he was featured in Cesar Millan second book, Be the Pack Leaser in chapter 7. He also got out when I had pheonomia and was hit but a car, I didnt even know her was gone for about 12 hours. I fight all the time not to take on guilt, blame, and shame about that.

You are right - to write abot the good thimes DOES allow us to move through grief so that we become functional again. How old was he when you first met him and how did you decide to take him in?

Hugs -

CJ

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I am so sorry for your loss and share your grief. There is NOTHING harder then to make the decision to put our beloved pet down. I am always questioning the decision, even though I trust my intuition and my relationship with them. How old was the shedard mix to Jonas when you got her. How did Jonas show her the ropes?

Hugs!

CJ

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I'm so sorry, HollyAK, to hear of your loss of Jonas. I wish I could have met him as he sounds like he was an exceptional dog. We share the same intense grief ... you sound as lost as I am without my wonderful Marley. Thank you for posting. It helps me to know there are others out there who can understand my pain and so I say to you, you are not alone in this. It will get better for us, so until then I will be thinking of you.

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Thank you CJ. You never expect to fall so much in love with a pet. I bought Marley from a pet store when he was 10 weeks old. We had just lost our 10 year old Newfoundland dog, Daisy. I didn't go into that pet store that day expecting to buy a dog. In fact, I had always said I would never buy a pet from a pet store. But then I saw Marley. He was the last of a large litter of goldendoodles. Nobody wanted a black doodle ... his cream coloured siblings all found homes quickly. I will never forget his brown eyes and how they looked up at me from the glass window. He was ours at that moment on. We named him Marley, after Bob Marley, due to his wonderful black kinky hair! He stole our hearts immediately. I miss how he would steal a shoe and tease us by almost letting us grab it from his mouth and then turn and run. I miss his ridiculous "singing" when a loved one walked in the door. I miss everything about him ... even how bad he always smelled. Now we will always know where our shoes are and my house will never smell that bad again. You don't know what I would give to have my shoes go missing and my house smell bad! Miss you buddy! Miss you soooo bad! Thanks for letting me share this with you.

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Marley's Mom and Holly,

I am so sorry for your losses. Our beloved pets are one of the strongest bonds we can have, it is no wonder that the corresponding grief is so intense. You are certainly in my thoughts and prayers, I am just so sorry.

Kay

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  • 2 weeks later...

Marley's mom,

Everything you have written could have been written by me. I am so sorry about your loss and how you lost him. 9 months later for me and it is just as sad as it was when she died. I just do not cry as much as I used to. I hope you are doing better. I have found when I am having an especially rough day I come to this forum and it helps. God bless

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