shalady

Thank you Mary. Can you guide me where to find a counselor. Hospice chaplain said he would mail me list of groups. You suggested a counselor fight now. I wanted to share I put my husbands handicap scooter in storage today, that was another final in my eyes. Then hospice brought 3 teddy bears. They took his favorite flannel tee-shirts and made 2 bears and another bear from his favorite Labrador retriever t-shirt. It really hit hard. So heart wrenching but I'm sure it will turn to comfort. Will take picture and post it

Thank you for your kind words and encouragement. The thought of a support group is sounding more like something I need to do. Anything that might help at this point. I have lost a sister and both my parents as well as many friends and relatives. This loss is unlike anything. You never understand until you experience it. I am so sorry for all that are here but so grateful we can be here for each other.

I know, you are right. I am so used to being a nurturer and being strong. This is just shattering. I can't wrap my brain around this or process it. I think I may need to look into counseling, although I find coming to this site and reading others' experiences very validating and comforting. Days can pass and I've accomplished nothing. I cry a lot. I talk to him. I miss him so much. I can't imagine long term without him, alone without him. Thanks for listening...

Hi Sue, I am very sorry for your loss of your husband. I lost my beloved husband six weeks ago. We were married 38 years. I guess I am still in the raw stage. I cry everyday. I miss him so my bones ache. I am glad you have found this place. I hope you find as much comfort as I have found. Everyone here understands. No one judges us. They share experiences and pain. They validate what we are feeling and going thru. I wish you peace in your journey Shalady

I am so sorry for your pain.. I agree that you just take one day at a time, even one hour at a time. This is the hardest thing we have ever gone thru. Do not put pressure on yourself about crying. The tears will come. Although everyone faces the same challenges in this grief journey we all handle it individually. There is no right or wrong. Some days are better than others. I have not gone to grief counseling but have been thinking about trying it. It can't hurt. I won't know unless I try. Something to consider. Just try not to pressure yourself right now. Take care of you, eat, drink water and take a nap if you can or at least rest. This is exhausting. I have been in the house two days just because I am tired. I will make myself go out today, I will do that for me. I so wish you a better day today. I hope you find some peace and comfort knowing we are listening and we do understand.

I hope you are doing better today. I know how difficult it is to cope with the loneliness. I try to fill some of the time by reading and taking walks with the dog. Of course there is always a pile of paperwork on the table. I get to it a little at a time. I turned down another dinner invitation with friends tonight. I had a late lunch and could not eat again but mostly I was just not up to it. I love their company but can't focus well. I hope they don't give up on me by stopping to ask me. Do you have any interests you enjoy? I find music helps me. Sometimes it makes me cry but that is ok. Remember our lives will never be the same, how could they be. I guess at some point we will begin a new way of life. For right now it is just one day or maybe one hour at a time.

I am so sorry you had to go thru a birthday, especially so soon after. I can only imagine that hurt. It was so nice the people cleaned up the leaves. There are so many kind people willing to help. Like you my heart aches. I too wonder how I face tomorrow without him. I too have the attitude of just one day at a time. It is wonderful to have this place to share feelings with so many experiencing this journey. I have learned so much and will continue to come here for comfort and understanding. I hope you do too. I wish you peace and comfort.

I was having a good day and somehow got turned around in the evening and the floodgates opened again. I can't believe I cry each and every day. I feel so weak and wish I could be stronger. My husband was a Navy man. I am in the process of making arrangements for burial at sea. They let you choose from several ports so I have chosen Norfolk which is where he was first and longest stationed. I know he would be very pleased. He was very patriotic and loved his country. I am trying to find various ways in which to honor his time here. I miss him so very much.

A very close friend told me about this site . She lost her husband and was able to find comfort here too. I am so glad I took her advice. Everyone shares so much compassion. It is a great comfort when we are trying to cope with such unbelievable sadness. My heart goes out to each and every one of you. Thank you for listening and sharing.

I am so sorry for your loss.. I am new to this also, my husband passed away five weeks ago. Today was very difficult. I went to see some aides that helped take care of my husband. I totally lost it. This seems to be a process we have to go through. I find music seems to soothe me a little. Try to find something you enjoy to help you relax. I found we can come here anytime for comfort from those who have been through this journey as well. I wish you peace and comfort.

Thank you so much for your kind words of encouragement. I too am sorry for your loss. My family is far away but I am grateful to have some wonderful friends. I keep the happy face most of the time for them but have my moments when I just can't bear to. I stay away a lot because I'm not sure they understand how devastated I really feel. I know I can come here and read other's feelings and get comfort.

I lost my husband of 38 years five weeks ago. I have lost my best friend, my rock, my strength. Each day I am overwhelmed trying to deal with daily tasks. I returned to my part time job but feel useless. I get in the car but when I am driving I forget where I was going. I am so disappointed with myself. I used to be such a strong person. Now I can barely make a decision. I also find it exhausting putting on a happy face until I get home. Any encouraging words would help.