Charlie1 Posted May 30, 2006 Report Share Posted May 30, 2006 A couple of years ago, a very good friend called and asked me some rather "uncoordinated" questions about me and my health. He is 10 years older and to my surprise had had a stroke. Now this friend of mine is very close. I met him in my late youth and we became fast friends. He is Swedish and a long story short, we worked together in his country for a couple of years. We know each other very well and he eventually introduced me to my wife. We were speaking Swedish and I didn't pick up the gist of what he was saying. He asked me when I think of my family whom do I put first. I answered, My wife and kids. He said "exactly". As we continued on he began urging me to put myself first as if I "fell down" who would take care of my family. What a concept I thought and tucked it away with other advice I have been given over the years and it was back to the usual.Fast forward a couple of years, as primary care giver for my father, friend and best man at my wedding. 8.5 months of being on call, working from hospital lobbies, parking lots, airports on my way back home and just about anywhere else I could to be able to take care of my father. He dies, I am numb and the grief counselor I set up for my my mom calls me on my cell phone a couple of months later. "Are you taking care of yourself?" she asks. Trying to move out of this conversation as quickly as possible, I reply "I'm fine." Little do I know the meandering journey that is in store for me.This last weekend, I am determined to get to know what I don't know about taking care of myself. Yes, I feel a bit guilty when I am not available for my wife or kids but there is somethng to what my Swedish friend and the grief counselor are trying to install in to my rather hard head. I am trying very hard to take care of myself. I have always gone to the gym but I think this means more(??). I took a nap this weekend, yea I know, but this was huge for me. I am trying to find other things that will connect me with the advice I received and now am beginning to act on. Anyone out there know ow to balance taking care of onself and selfishness? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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