DBeans Posted March 17 Report Share Posted March 17 Hi everyone. I’m still in complete shock and wanted to share my story. In our mid 30s and I’ve been with my GF for 5 strong years. In my mind, I was ready to settle down, and there was much love and commitment. Her father had long been ill, and we knew his time would come. On his last days, I tried to be there to take care of the place while she was grieving. Even then, she told me how much she loved and appreciated me for doing so. Almost directly following the funeral, she called my in an icy cold tone I’ve never heard, and she told me that she’s decided she needs someone else as a partner, that there’s someone better out there suited for her, and that she will pack my stuff up to be picked up. I completely broke down and have just been stuck in a state of shock, confusion, and disbelief. All I can think of right now are the ways I could have been a better, more helpful partner — all of the times I could have said “X” instead of “Y” and maybe that would have changed it. I cannot bring myself to pick up my stuff yet, and I legitimately don’t know when I’ll be ready. I poured out my emotions and feelings in an e-mail following this, but she responded in just as managerial and cold in tone. I keep taking naps, hoping that I’ll wake up and realize this is all a dream, or that I’ll wake up to a message from her saying “just kidding!” I felt so settled in this relationship that I genuinely can’t think of putting myself out there again. I know hope is dangerous, but it feels like the only thing I have right now that’s keeping me from spiraling deeper — hope that she’ll see more clearly. I also feel smaller and more disposable than I ever have, that I can be chucked away on a whim like this. I wish I could read her mind, but I know it’s probably worthless trying to think of what she’s thinking. I know that I should probably rip the band-aid and get my stuff, but mentally I don’t see me ready to do that for a few weeks — we share so much, that I know it will wreck me out of sentimentality. Hopefully she doesn’t mind holding onto those things in the time being. I feel suddenly lost. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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