KathyG Posted June 6, 2008 Report Share Posted June 6, 2008 In Dean Koontz' new book, "Odd Hours," the lead character says something really profound about grief:"Grief can destroy you or focus you. You can decide a relationship was all for nothing if it had to end in death, and you alone. Or you can realize that every moment of it had more meaning than you dared to recognize at the time, so much meaning it scared you."So you just lived, just took for granted the love and laughter each day, and didn't allow yourself to consider the sacredness of it. But when it's over and you're alone, you begin to see it wasn't just a movie and a dinner together, not just sunsets or worrying over a high electric bill. It was everything, it was the why of life, every event and precious moment of it."The answer to the mystery of existence is the love you shared sometimes so imperfectly, and when the loss wakes you to the deeper beauty of it, you can't get off your knees for a long time. You're driven to your knees not by the weight of the loss -- but by gratitude for what preceded the loss. And the ache is always there, but one day not the emptiness, because to nurture the emptiness is to take solace in it, is to disrespect the gift of life." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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