Joanne Posted September 19, 2009 Report Share Posted September 19, 2009 Hello, Thank you all for your previous responses. It does help to think there are people who are going through the same thing I am. It has been 2 weeks since my mom passed (that is so difficult for me to say). At the beginning, I was thinking about her and bawling. Now, I have almost convinced myself that it did not happen. I still have my crying fits but somehow I convince myself that I can bring her back or that she is still camping. She died a week after entering hospital. Nobody knew she had lung cancer. She was diagnosed in the hospital. It just can't be real. I also feel very lazy around the house. I am not accomplishing much and I think this kind of irks my hubby.Thanks for listening.Joanne Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LarrysGirl Posted September 19, 2009 Report Share Posted September 19, 2009 Joanne, I'm so sorry about your loss. While you are grieving it takes so much out of you, its not unusual to feel tired, worn out and not get anything done. Be kind to yourself during this time, the house can wait. Deborah Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted September 20, 2009 Author Report Share Posted September 20, 2009 Deborah, Thank you for your response. I just so wish I could go back in time for things to be normal again. I want to call her so badly today and I am starting to realize that I can't. It pisses me off (excuse my language)..Joanne Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeeGee Posted September 20, 2009 Report Share Posted September 20, 2009 Joanne,My husband died three weeks ago yesterday. And yes, I have noticed I am not sobbing as much. But same as you, now that the initial shock has passed, I now am experiencing the feeling of really, really wanting to talk to him.I guess this must be the time this feeling starts to kick in.And about the house - wow, I just can't do much of anything around here. No motivation. And this is very unlike me!Yesterday my daughter-in-law called at around 4:00 pm and wanted to brings the boys down to see me. I said to her "give me an hour so I can get dressed, I am still in my housecoat".I have vowed to myself that today I will get dressed early and will begin straightening things up around here and doing some laundry. Don't know if I will actually accomplish it, but I have set the goal.DeeGee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emptyinside Posted September 21, 2009 Report Share Posted September 21, 2009 I'm so sorry for your loss. I really identify with the denial part. I think it is our way of preserving our sanity sometimes. I still do it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted September 21, 2009 Author Report Share Posted September 21, 2009 Dee Gee, Thanks for sharing. I am sorry to hear about your husband and you having to go through this. As for the house, I started setting a timer and I tell myself o.k. 15 minutes of organizing or cleaning. If later I want to do another 15 minutes then so be it.How old are your grandkids? Take good care of yourself Hugs Joanne Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted September 21, 2009 Author Report Share Posted September 21, 2009 Hi Empty Inside, Sorry to hear about your pain. Thanks for letting me know that I am not alone. Joanne Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeeGee Posted September 22, 2009 Report Share Posted September 22, 2009 joanne: 3 boys - 3 1/2, 9 and 11 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Korina Posted September 26, 2009 Report Share Posted September 26, 2009 Many, many times, I cry in the shower, and plead to wake up from this nightmare....that is my denial. Korina Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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