I Lost My Cat Daughter Mitsy

[Ladyphenix]

I knew this day was coming n foolishly thought I could prepare for it but I failed miserably. She passed on august 5th 2012, n ive never felt such a loss even when family members have passed. She was my soulmate,friend, n daughter. I couldnt bring myself to bury her so I kept her body in a special coffin. My family n friends think ive lost my mind but I dont care, she will go where ever I go. N when I die n get cremated I want her remains cremated with mine. Ive felt different emotions this past week but the greatest one is the loss. I cant sleep well or eat much as I feel sick to my stomach, im very depressed, nobody has even asked how im holding up because in their opinion its just a cat so get over it attitude sucks. I was with her to the end. N though she will live on in my heart n memories, just knowing that I can never hold her again or sing her silly madeup songs to her or give her daily 100 kisses as was our bedtime routine makes my heart ache that much more. I feel so empty inside n if I couldve taken her place I would have. I cant shake the sadness. A few days ago I made some french fries n was gonna set some aside for her cuz she loved them n it hit me that shes gone. It was just out of habit. She was with me for 14 years. I rescued her when she was a kitten from some terrible people. She had attitude n definitely a personality all her own. I cant imagine life without her.

[CJ Anderson]

I am sooooo sorry for your loss! What a grand soul she must have been and WOW, a great MOM to have her live for so long and so well!

Just a word, you are NEVER prepared, I have lost a few to cancer and it is true so you grieve as long as you need to!

I know for my self, I found that helping with recues MADE me connect with the world again, even though I wanted to curl up in my room until I was gone! At least I was helping other dogs who were facing euthasia until I could feel again, (altho it sure felt like I would never feel anything but grief again.

How did she come into your life?

Hugs,

CJ

[kayc]

What is your cat's name? You were both very lucky to have each other for so long. I am a huge animal lover and I know there are some you are especially attached to, my current dog is that way with me. Anyone who would say "it's just a cat, get over it" doesn't have a clue what a special relationship you had. I had a cat that passed away at 19 years, his name was George, same as my husband, and they died one year apart...it's hard to believe they've been gone this long, but you never stop missing them. I say, whatever brings YOU comfort is how you should handle it, and if you have a special coffin that will contain her w/o smell coming through, then it sounds like a good way to deal with it, I hadn't heard of one of those. I buried my cat in my back yard, right where my husband's ashes were scattered, and my dog was buried. Now we call it "the family burial plot" and I've given my kids instructions to spread my ashes there when it's my turn to go.

My heart goes out to you in your loss, I know how deep the hurt can be. Please tell us a little more about her, and come here any time you want, we'll be here to listen.

Kay

[Ladyphenix]

I rescued her from some abusive people in an apartment complex I lived at. She had been by my side through so much, from moving to different cities, just everything, she meant everything to me. She was a tabby tortoise shell longhaired beautiful sweetheart n very protective of me. There were few people she trusted n liked being near her, but I know she had her reasons. I trusted her judgement. She was truly unique n brought out the best in me. She was the Queen in my house n was denied nothing. I have 3 kittens of hers that she had in january of this year. Zak nick n aaron, 3 beautiful boys named after the ghost adventures team lol. N thank you for responding it meant alot to know im not alone or think im weird for keeping her.

[Ladyphenix]

Her name was Mitsy (not misty) had to clarify lol alot of people think I missed type her name lol her full name is Mitsy Valley Trask Treptor, course she had alot of nicknames though, n alot of silly madeup songs that id sing to her, she was quite a character n had personality, I always could communicate with her as she did with me in her own way but always clear. She was smart n tempermental but oh how I love her. She was my daughter n always will be. I have other cats n dogs in my life but she was the most important one though I love the others she was closest to my heart n soul in ways few can understand. We had been through so much together. If I had a bad dream she would lead me out of it. Id wake up to her looking down at me from my pillow with this look on her face as if to say im here n ur okay now. I miss her terribly. Im sorry for everyones loss regardless of who it was n I know the loss is great for everyone, it does help to know that im not alone. As for her coffin well it was a metal box from germany that belonged to my dad that passed away last year n so I used it after lining it. I wrapped her body n put it inside. I then sealed it n placed in a plastic tub with a lid n boxes of baking soda around it then closed it n placed outside until the natural process is done I will bring it back inside n place it next to my dads urn. N should that coffin fail I will have a wooden coffin made n place the germany box within it with a glass lid on top. Thank you for responding it truly means alot.

[kayc]

Well I think you're showing great respect to her, wanting her with you. I know that's how I'd feel about Arlie when his time goes, but he's so big, I'll probably have to have him cremated. I've had pets all my life but for some reason, I'm closest to him, maybe it's my stage in life, or his personality, but it's like God made him just for me.

Wishing you the best...