pmpupdamike

I am sorry for your loss. I don't know, if it is over sensitivity, or otherwise. I think, it is much easier for people to act without thinking than to actually put some thought, behind thier words, in all facets, not just in regards to personal loss. Perhaps, it is a symptom of our "reality tv" obsessed culture, that the more egregious or gawdy the comment, the more importance it is given? I am not sure, I do know, that I share the same sentiment as you. I recently loss my father, and I can attest that some people are just too self absorbed to think about about how words can impact another. In many cases, I think these people are in pain themselves and seek out to make themselves feel better at any given opportunity. I think, the one fact, that keeps me sane, is that, that the people who care, family or friends, know what to say.

Happy Harvest Everyone. I wish everybody a peaceful road to recovery, and the ability to find even small joy, admist thier grief. I just wanted to mention, that since joining, I have noticed, a lack of participation. I wonder if this is usually the case, or if it just that we are all in the intial stages of raw grief, which prevent us from sharing? I know, that I am sometimes, a hermit, an emotional ostrich. At the slightest, inkling of pain, I hide it away, I put it back in the recesses of my life. I was hoping that this forum would be a catalyst to enable me to share. I a little discouraged by the fact, that I don't see many responses.

I think the best intentions are often unsaid, but acted upon. I think if you are close, offer to take her out, give her a break, especially if she has the task of small children, and family to take care of. As a mother myself, sometimes, the best gift was just the presence of someone who cared to tell me, that I deserved a break! Listen to her, and offer to advice only when asked. What a great sister in law you are!

Angel, I am so right there with you. I had an episode last night, and I was just so overwhelmed with grief. I have so many questions, regrets, thoughts, that I often find myself, making a conscience decision to stop thinking! A part of me still waits, for what i do not know. My thoughts are with you, hope you have better days!

HI there. I am so sorry for your loss. YOur story mirrors my own, even down to the loss of routine. I was part of my father's care, my mother and I both took care of him, in hospice. Pancreatic cancer is so lethal, I am so sorry, your poor father had to endure this. It does sound however, like he was a source of great strength and inspiration for you. I know, there is very little that I can say, that can ease, your pain, and your emptiness. Know, however, that you are not alone in your struggles. If you would like to correspond, my email is pmpupdamike@yahoo.com. I lost my dad 9/28 and yes, it does feel like yesterday. I am still grieving, and in the process of seeking resolution. I like reading everyone's stories here, as they serve as lessons, and reminders that I am not alone, despite my feeling so. I hope you continue to seek peace, and healing. I am a good pen pal, if you have the time and need to talk. Be Well Mir

Hi Jodo. I am so so sorry. I recently joined this forum and while it has been my observation, that it is not as active as I would like it to be, there are very sincere replys, to many posts. I hope to hear your story, and I wish you well, during this difficult time.

Hi Angel, thank you so much for your reply. I appreciate your good thoughts, and I want to extend my sympathies for your loss. I have good and bad days, unfortunately my father's death, brought with it, some family issues, that I yet have to resolve.

Hello Hudson's Mom. I am so sorry for your loss. I replied to one of your other posts. I don't know why things happen, and I think, there is no correct way to grieve or express sadness. I do think, however, that the more you interact, and help others with the willingness to share your experiance, that you start to heal. I think, that it was a cruel event in your life, and no doubt, it will change your perspective on everything. I hope that you find peace, even when in the midst of your anguish.

I am so so sorry for your loss. Was your child ill? I am not sure how to even begin to comprehend, what you are going through. I dare not endeavor to understand your pain. All I can say, is how sorry I am.

Susan..I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my father about 4 weeks ago. I have three children as well. I think I hid my grief in my daily routine. I am not sure about signs, I suppose I am still waiting for mine. I do think however, that life has a strage way of putting things into place, and those facets, are signs for some, and coincendences for another.

Spika.I am so sorry for your loss. I can sense the pain in your words, so much so, that I too, felt that pang in my chest. My father passed away on the 28th of Sept, this year. It is still raw, and I feel the same as you, although perhaps from a different vantage point. I don't deal with pain or grief well. I over analyze everything. I tried to research my way out of sadness, and here I am, with a "killer" encyclopedic knowledge on metastatic prostate cancer. My father's medical team, were always so impressed, but I never felt the same towards them, I always thought there was more, that could be done. My dad's body gave out, and I am left, a book worm with a broken heart.

Hi Susan. I felt a total connection to your post. I am a mother also, and my grief often sneaks up on me, in the morning and evenings. I lost my father a month ago, to cancer. It was a difficult journey, and there are so many other issues, that were a part of his dying experiance. I am very enthralled by your understanding of a "sign" I think, I know what you mean, although, I must admit, that my faith is currently clouded by my anxiety, sadness, and anger. I am so sorry for your loss, and I wish I had more to add, other than, I am right there with you. M

Matt, I am a new member. I recently experianced the loss of my father. Thank you for sharing such a lovely sentiment. No doubt, you were a wonderful son!

Hello. I want to first say, how very sorry, I am for all the losses, that have been experianced by everyone here. I recently lost my father about a month ago. I can not seem to resolute, much of my emotions. I often feel very alone, I can't seem to put to peace, much of the ordeals surrounding my father's death. I hope to find, insight, support and friendship. I, in turn, would like to provide the same, if given the opportunity. A little about me, I am 38, and originally from Nyc. I like to think of myself, as contemporary, but also lover of the old, and classical. I find myself, dealing with my grief, in the oddest manners. I tend to be a bit escapist. I hope to meet you all. M