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enna

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About enna

  • Birthday 12/05/1942

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  • Your relationship to the individual who died
    wife
  • Date of Death
    May 25, 2012
  • Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
    Hospice of the Valley - Phoenix

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  • Your gender
    Female
  • Location (city, state)
    Goodyear, AZ
  • Interests
    Spending time with family and friends and reading.

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  1. Hello dear fellow grievers, I’m coming to you again to remind you that our website needs donations to keep from having annoying ads on this site. Our Certified Grief Counselor and moderator of this site is Marty Tousley who reads all posts and makes sure that this website is safe for us. She has kept this website open for several decades now. She does not want to have to fill the site with annoying ads. Our donations help with this. It costs money to keep a website like ours up and running and ad free. Please consider a donation if you are able. enna
  2. January 10, 2023 As we begin yet another New Year I am again requesting, if you want to donate whatever amount of money you are able to keep this Grief Healing website open and free from ads please do so. As a fellow griever I know how valuable this site is to so many. Marty, a certified grief counselor and sole owner of this site, continues to respond to all those who ask for help. She reads every post and with our membership well over 11,590 it is time consuming and done with love and compassion to all members. The cost of an ad free site is high. It is the only site like this on the web free from annoying ads. I have known Marty for over ten years. She is passionate about having a place for grievers to go to get sound advice. We no longer grieve alone; and we can be safe in knowing that whatever is posted will be kind. It is the members who make this site a treasure. Listening and responding with great love makes this a site that we all can benefit from. I know I have over the years. So please donate if you are able. Anne
  3. I write this with a deep pain in my heart. Earlier today many of us lost a dear friend. Mary Bishop, Queen Mary as some of us knew her, died earlier today. She passed without some of us saying goodbye! We have been a small Tribe of four for over ten years. We met right on this Forum. I along with my other two Tribe members grieve. As some of you know me I am not that talkative so my why of grieving has been to color. This is my goodbye to a dear friend. Mary Bishop will be missed. Anne
  4. Thank you for the update. Breathing a little easier now. Anne
  5. Hi Laura, Just checking in to see how you are doing. How are you? I'm so glad that this pandemic is somewhat behind us. My small family in IL are doing ok. My youngest granddaughter is five and she has worn a mask for the two years of her schooling. Today was the first day her class did not have to wear a mask. She is in a Montessori school and the virus has been very light in her school. My Nicky (7th grader) likes school. He has been in Lacrosse for two years and likes it. He is all about athletics now. My oldest grand is doing well in high school. She wants to be a director. She likes to act and she is a good singer. Let me know how you are doing when you are able. I'm still here in AZ and loving it. Anne 🥰 💜 💕
  6. Hi Laura, I am just reading this and I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Anne
  7. Hello dear grievers, I come to you as a fellow griever and ask you to donate to this web site so our moderator can continue to keep it free from all those annoying ads. Marty, a certified grief counselor and sole owner of this site, continues to respond to all those who ask for help. She reads every post and with our membership well over 11,325 it is time consuming and done with love and compassion to all members. The cost of an ad free site is high. It is the only site like this on the web free from annoying ads. Marty does not know that I continue to ask for donations until she reads what I’ve written. I have known Marty for almost ten years. She is passionate about having a place for grievers to go to get sound advice. We no longer grieve alone; and we can be safe in knowing that whatever is posted will be kind. It is the members who make this site a treasure. Listening and responding with great love makes this a site that we all can benefit from. I know I have over the years. So please donate if you are able. Anne
  8. Beautiful and heartwarming update. Your picture is beautiful. Triggers will be with us always. I'm so glad you are in this place right now. 💜 Anne
  9. enna

    Time

    Kay, You are so sweet. I am glad I know you also. We have been on this journey for many years. Thank you for your kindness. Anne
  10. enna

    Time

    Thank you for your kind words, Kay. We have been on this journey for a long time. I am entering my tenth year. I have only had a few friends who have stayed with me. My family not so much. I too would like Jim to be here with me. Anne
  11. enna

    Time

    5/23/2021 Time I have heard many times that we don’t understand unless we have gone through the same thing. I do not believe this … I have many friends who DO understand, and they have not gone through similar situations. If someone has lost a spouse to death one does not have to experience a similar loss. Even those who have lost a spouse have their own sense of loss. One may have had a long loving relationship, and another may have had a long relationship, but the love was not as intense. I believe that there can be no comparisons made in grief. Grief is grief. Loss is loss. It seems like such simple statements, but they are full of so many different meanings. On the 25th of this month I will have spent nine years without the love of my life. I am not where I was back then. I hope I have grown from this experience. The early days of my grief are clouded in pain and sorrow from having lost my husband. We were married for forty years. We have an amazing daughter who gave us three beautiful grandkids. I am learning how to move through each day on my own. There are ups and downs. One thing I have learned is that this journey is mine and only mine. Others can and have walked with me, but the journey is mine to navigate. I am grateful for those who have not let me take this journey alone. I have friends who have encouraged me when I wanted to give up. Friends who have allowed me to be sad without trying to cheer me up. Friends who have sat with me in my darkness. Friends who have been with me these ten years. Friends not afraid of saying his name for fear of making me sad. How could I be sad when I hear his name? Jim. I thank them for their friendship. Time does not fix anything. Grief is work. I have found that I had to allow the pain and sadness. I am a crier, so I cried. I remember the screams in the shower or in the car or at night before I went to bed. I sought help since this was new territory for me. I had experienced loss before but not like this loss. I read and reread about grief. I bought books to read and later bought the same book not even remembering that I had read it before. I tried to understand why this loss was so devastating to me. It was because of how Jim made me feel. Loved. I am in a very different place today. I will always miss my Jim. I find joy in watching my grandkids grow up. I am grateful for each day. I take pleasure in small things. I am at peace with my life as it is today…more often than not. Anne
  12. Another Request March 14, 2021 WOW! This month we have climbed to over 11,000 members. This grief site is the only place on the Internet that has no ads to plow through and it also has an expert certified grief counselor who reads every post and responds to the ones who are requesting help during the grieving process. It is the members site and we read and get comfort from what we post being assured that whatever is posted is kind and nonjudgmental. Knowledge is what helps us get through hard times and the information provided by Marty is spot on. I have been a member since 2012 after my husband of forty years, Jim, died. I don't come here as often as I used to but I like to check in especially to read what's new on the grief healing blog. When Marty was working at Hospice of the Valley this site was a part of HOV. Due to cuts HOV was going to drop the online site so Marty decided to buy the rights since it was her work. You can read about it in her grief healing blog at the top of the main page. A donation button went up a few years ago to help with the cost of keeping the site free from annoying ads. It is costly to keep a site active without ads. The owner, Marty Tousley, wants it that way. I know we all have issues that we are dealing with and it has not been easy during the last year to come up with money when jobs have been cut, businesses are shut down, many kids are still doing online learning. Parents with school age kids have to make hard choices about staying home with the kids or going to work, and the list goes on and on. I am asking you to donate if you are able any amount to help with the cost of keeping this site open. If you’re like me, I don’t even see the donate button nor do I think about the cost and time our moderator puts into keeping this site up and running. So, if you are able and are a member, please consider making a donation, any amount is helpful, to keep this valuable grief site open. I voice my opinion because I know that having a site like this one is important to those of us who are grieving. There is something in these forums for us no matter what our grief is at any time. Anne
  13. enna

    Progress

    I find it very calming and comforting, razorclam. Thank you for taking the time to post. Kay, I have always been amazed by the colors of birds. The colors are so vibrant. Thank you for liking my Bluebird. Anne
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