Clematis

You know, I don't know her very well. I think she is in her 60's, she has some health problems and I don't know what all is going on in her life. I don't think things are good at home. I figure that if her cat gives her great solace and she feels so strongly about it, it's ok. She really really loves that cat. Animals can love us unconditionally in a way that is sometimes unmatched by the people in our lives. I was married many years ago to a man who was very selfish and didn't want to grow up. He wanted to play and smoke dope. He wanted me to work and take care of him and take care of the house and everything else. At some point he decided he wanted to quit his job-which most would consider a dream job, sell the house, and have us move into a teepee (for real-he had one). He actually thought I should have children and we'd all live in the teepee. I left and never regretted it. I thought I could take better care of myself-and I have. Had I stayed with him I would have been in for a rough road, especially if I had children with him. I never remarried or had children; that's just the way things went. Because I work with people, I have heard a lot of stories from women who ended up in much worse situations than I was in, and could never find a way out. Anyway, Lena has been a lot better for me than my ex-husband...a great cat is better than a human who isn't right for you...

I agree that animals love us unconditionally, but we cannot know the depth or complexity of that love--assuming love means food, shelter, companionship,play, affection. But often we don't know about our human loves either. How much does he love me? My mother spoke of love often, my father never.He would not use the word. It would be very gratifying to me to have a love (not unrequited) besides feline. My cats who lived the longest (19, 16) were the LOML. I feel ignimonious about that. At least we were mutual. I still feel it sounds a bit pathetic, especially to people with long good relationships.I don't tell my friends.

 Yeah, a great cat is better than a misfit human rel'ship. I once wrote a list why a cat is better than a woman because I read one why a cat is better than a man. Was your husband an Indian? In a teepee? Makes no sense....good that you left him. I would appreciate a nice level headed woman, but I am not seeking this any longer.. I know many bitter women are out there...I read their stories in other forums and online dating sites. Men are not usually so open.

  Has been very cloudy here near Chicago and I wish I was in Arizona or Colorado.

It is has also been rainy and cloudy here, but I have been in AZ so long it always thrills me to see clouds, and even more so when it rains.

No, my ex was not an Indian; he was white, but had figured out that if he got permission to erect his teepee on someone's land he wouldn't have to pay rent or utilities, and therefore he wouldn't have to work very much or very hard. He really wanted someone to support him, someone he could also boss around. In some ways he was charming and lovable, but he was not a grownup and not headed in that direction either. I loved him but he was not a good candidate for a husband or life partner-at least not for me.