Maylissa Posted March 26, 2006 Report Share Posted March 26, 2006 I've just been reading "Letting Go of the Person You Used To Be" by Lama Surya Das, and thought I might pass along these words that I personally found so helpful to this long, drawn-out grieving so many of us are experiencing ( italics are mine ):"He's only been gone for 6 years, and perhaps I haven't gone through enough of the grieving process to really accept and know that he's gone."I found this to be SO helpful, because consider this....this author has been a well-trained, "sought-after spiritual teacher and meditation master, poet...", author of many acclaimed books and a Buddhist for YEARS, who was taught by some of the most renowned modern-day spirtual leaders, even before his father died....yet, as of the writing of this book ('03), even he admits to still struggling with his grief, being "only" 6 years since he lost his father, and still in the process of grieving. While I know most of us don't want to imagine having pain for that long, this certainly lends credence to the basic FACT that grief isn't over and done with in mere months, or even necessarily years. In short, NONE of us should feel bad, or obligated in any way to 'get over' or even 'get completely through' such a process in record time. If WE'RE still struggling, it would be wise to know and remember that even the most astute and dedicated of students on Life's Path can have a very difficult time of it, too. So for any of you who have suffered those ridiculous and unrealistic comments from others about 'getting over' and 'getting on with' things.....perhaps you can quote from this author and feel much more okay with the long time it takes to process this process! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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