father's daughter Posted August 10, 2008 Report Share Posted August 10, 2008 My father passed away last week at the age of 74. Although he had a heart condition, he died on sepsis that supposedly started by his toxic liver from his heart medication and shut down his kidneys and eventually heart. I'm having a difficult time to adjust. I see his death as something that didn't have to happen if doctors were more careful or were moving much faster in the emergency. I blame myself that I underestimated his condition and didn't push harder at the emergency. I loved and love my dad very much and now I'm worried about my mom. My parents were married 51 years and were very dependent on each other. Because of my dad's heart condition, they were doing everything together. I have 2 1/2 old son and a husband so I know I should devote my attention to them but what about my mom? My story is even more complicated by the fact that we immigrated to this country together and that because I spoke English, the roles partially reversed. I would take care of most of my parents' affairs in English. Now my mom doesn't drive and the easiest would be to bring her to our home. My grandmother is still alive although in a state of dementia and she lives my mom. My dad used to tell me that if something happened to either of them that I was not to take the second one in. That it would ruin my life. I'm also pondering about the reason why we are here if we should live with a grief and sorrow for the rest of our lives. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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