MartyT Posted May 19, 2010 Report Share Posted May 19, 2010 Dear Ones, I've just read an article by James R. Riddle that some of you may find of interest: How to Break Through Invisible Widow / Divorcee Dating Barriers by James R. Riddle, www.LovesEncore.com Successfully growing a rewarding relationship with that new special someone is often easier said than done for previously married singles. It gets even trickier when divorcees attempt to connect with widows. For several subtle reasons, each person's vastly different experience with marital relationships can make it difficult to break through these unexpected barriers. Are these hurdles hard to overcome? Somewhat. Impossible? Not at all. Can the positive rewards of success more than justify the marginal additional investment and effort? ABSOLUTELY! The key to successfully moving beyond these differences is to understand that they exist largely because of why previous married relationships ended, and how the people involved feel about their previous mate going forward. Read on . . . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted June 6, 2010 Report Share Posted June 6, 2010 Thank you for sharing this, Marty. One thing that wasn't mentioned in this article, that I have noticed can cause a problem, is when a widow dates someone who is divorced, there are further issues because of their different experience. Divorced people can carry a negative view of marriage and relationships whereas widowed people more often carry a positive view of the same. Divorcees often have difficulty with trust, commitment, fear of the relationship progressing too far. In addition, if they do enter a LTR with you, they may be lacking in major communication and coping skills, not having learned how to interact in a positive way in their previous relationship. All of this takes patience and time as you set positive example based on what you learned in your previous positive relationship and try to help them learn a more healthy way of interacting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MartyT Posted June 6, 2010 Author Report Share Posted June 6, 2010 Excellent points all, Kay ~ you might consider sharing your comments with the author of this article! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted June 9, 2010 Report Share Posted June 9, 2010 Thanks, Marty, I just did! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MartyT Posted June 9, 2010 Author Report Share Posted June 9, 2010 Good for you, Kay ♥ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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