Wildflower Posted November 2, 2014 Report Share Posted November 2, 2014 My Mom died the end of last year after a long illness with breast cancer. She was living in a different country to me, but I flew in just in time. She passed 8 hours after I landed. It seemed nothing had really been discussed as to how she wanted to die. I could tell she only had hours to live, but that had not been directly communicated to the family. Hospice had only just been referred which was too late. My parents had not been ready to accept their services earlier, despite gentle encouragement by me. They kept a lot of information to themselves when dealing with her illness, thinking they were protecting us I guess. Here in the States, I am fortunate to work with home care and hospice nurses who had given me very valuable information, so I felt fairly well prepared for her dying process. But it seemed my family back home weren't. It was just a very intense situation to come into after a long flight. My Moms last moments were very peaceful, and she was surrounded by all the family. It was very special. She even blew us all a kiss an hour or two before she died. The thing I am getting hung up on is that I was the one who called for the IV morphine. It was night time, and nothing had been set up. The hospital nurse wanted to wait until morning and wasn't really paying attention to my Mom as she had another young patient in crisis. But I knew my Mom really needed it as she was suffering so terribly. We had to call the on call doctor, who ordered it right away. I then had to pull my Dad aside, and tell him it was time. Deep down he knew it, but he had been in such denial I think. I treasure the last few moments. I know she herself was ready to let go. She had been ready for a while. But the weight of taking on that responsibility is wearing me down. Anyone else had a similar experience? Thank you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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