livingnthedoghouse Posted January 7, 2015 Report Share Posted January 7, 2015 Hi everyone, My mom passed away on December 7, three hours after my 33rd birthday ended. She was diagnosed with lung cancer (non-smoker) in April and was doing really, really well. In October she had a great deal of trouble breathing and was put on oxygen 24/7. We found out shortly after that the cancer had spread everywhere. So, I watched my mom, so recently the picture of health, pass away at the age of 57. She left behind my dad, me and my two younger sisters. Like so many of you on these forums, my mom was my best friend. We were both teachers and loved spending time together on school holidays and during the summer when people with "real" jobs were at work. When I was diagnosed with MS nine years ago, she was my rock. I don't think I could have battled this disease, especially in the early stages, on my own. I think as far as the grieving process goes, I'm at a fairly "normal" state. I'm getting through the days at work (25 teenagers in one room has a tendency to take one's mind off of things) but at home I'm either mindlessly staring at the TV or internet. I would prefer not to discuss things with my husband at this point. I'm still processing everything in my mind, to an extent. Since my mom's passing, my husband has tried to kiss me several times but I shy away. If he persists, I inevitably start crying. It's as though I can't handle any type of intimacy whatsoever. This behavior seems to offend him and he says it doesn't make any sense to him that I can be occupied with other things (TV, computer, etc.) but when he tries to "distract" me, I'm not interested. Has this ever happened to any of you? I have to say dealing with the loss of my mom is giving me zero patience with my husband in regards to this issue. His mother is still alive and he seems to think I should be acting differently at this stage. How could he possibly know? I just want to know that I'm not the only one to react this way or if I am being unreasonable? Thank you in advance for any responses. I've found the forums here quite helpful. I feel like I am in very unfamiliar territory. I suppose grief is not really something you seek to learn more about until it invades your life completely. Thanks, Marissa Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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