WaltC Posted January 29, 2006 Report Share Posted January 29, 2006 I saw an item on the news last week that claimed that Tuesday, January 24th was supposed to be the most depressing day of the year.Last year the 24th was a Monday - JAN24thI usually don’t believe everything that I read in the newspaper or see on the news but I must have been taken in by the “hype” because last week was “not good”.I am currently reading a great little book of daily readings called Healing After Loss by Martha Hickman. It has often helped me through this journey of grief one day at a time.I found the message for January 24th to be somewhat disturbing. The author mentioned some memories of laughter during grief that would have been upsetting to me if I had been involved. (I don’t mean “nervous” laughter here.)In one case she recalled a relative telling a joke while their father lie dying nearby. I remember being upset just when Jeannie’s sisters would visit her and complain how hard their day had been at work, rather than try to comfort their dying sister - let alone tell jokes. The author also wrote about the laughter they enjoyed when a child “imitated” a grieving relative’s grief and had a good “laugh” at what I would call disrespect. By laughing at the child I believe they rewarded such behaviour as “OK” thus increasing the likelihood of the child repeating such behaviour where it might not be appropriate.I know that we are all different and some feel that laughter is the best medicine, but I guess I am just too old to see any humour in grief. I still have difficulty in chat rooms where fellow grievers are lol or rotflmao – I hope that someday in the not too distant future I will be able at least to smile and really mean it when I say “great” to the question“How are you making out?”I truly hope that all you kind folks that read this had a better week. I really do not enjoy “wallowing in my grief”, but sometimes I just can’t seem to climb out of this pit! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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