loulou

my dear,I'm so sorry my post has upset you.I really do think that my dad was sad to leave.I wonder all the time about that tear.It breaks my heart,to be honest.But i also know we lose control of our body functions when we pass so I may be ignorant about it.It's just so easy for me to believe he was crying for his family,since what was being shouted at the time were things like,"dont leave!your kids need you!your family lovesyou,dont go."I do believe the other side is beautiful,and great,but my thoughts and beliefs change by the hour.I just wanted to say sorry that my thoughts on my post triggered you to have this awful worry.I'm truly sorry.

Hey there,it's been awhile.I dont comment much anymore,but since we are in the same boat with the little ones...my sister is 9,and when she comes and stays the week I always get emotional.I do talk to her about Dad,but she almost wipes every expression off her face and goes blank.I use to have a little resentment (I'm not proud to say it)toward her because as close as they were she dosnt seem as sad as I would think.I have relaxed a bit,realized there is no way to tell her feelings inside.Also I came to the conclusion that since I had Dad much longer I must hurt more because of that.My brother is 2 and has no clue,which is sad in its own way.Boys are different.My 27 year old brother still dosnt even like to talk about it.I'm sorry your sitting there struggling through this.I have no answer but I do know what your going through.It hurts so much. how completely life ruining it is still takes my breath away.Good luck hun.be good to yourself.

Dave,I'm sorry about your loss,and the trouble with your Dad.My Dad died of a heart attack at age 49.I'm still dealing with it.It sounds like you reading was amazing.I have had a few readings,one with a very famous Allison Dubois.That was a group reading,and it pretty much sucked.They just emailed and said I was able to sign up for a phone reading,only 1,000$ an hour!A few months ago I had a reading with a women I was referred to by a grief therapist.It was AMAZING and I'm so glad I did it.I wanna give Rita a shot,now.I have heard of her.and 250 is much more reasonable then Allison.Thank you for sharing your story,and goodluck to you and your Dad, -Lila

Drock!I'm so curious if you found it.I'm very intrigued by this now...I believe it WAS her life force or energy leaving.Its amazing.

leslie,I,too am so sorry for your pain and loss.My dad passed on new years day 2010.I'm with Jodi when she says she still cries everyday,and dosnt know how to go on.I,too feel so lonely,and its getting worse.I have turned into a really negative person,and everyone I was close to is turning away.My dad was alot like yours.Loved life.He was my #1 bestfriend.The first person I would call for any reason.He was the coolest,funniest person I have ever known,and our bond was deep.I miss him still,so much it hurts.I still miss him more everyday.I'm sorry that I cant say its better.Just know you are not alone,no matter how people make you feel.hold on tight.Its so very hard.

Hi hon!I'm absolutely ecstatic for you and your dads "song".When you feel it in your heart,you know its real.I always try to get my dads song to me to play,but it does come on when Dad wants,I guess.But it makes it that much special when it does.This new medium,confirmed my song(it was amazing)I told her as I was leaving that I felt my dad sends me a certain song,she asked"whats the song?"I didnt stop to think and said"how far from heaven"before the words were out of my mouth all the way,she put up her hand and said,"he says how far IS heaven,how far IS heaven"I didnt think about it then,but that night I was laying in bed and thought,hmmm I wonder if I said the title wrong.I checked the next day and sure enough...how far IS heaven.She didnt even know the song I ment seeing its not popular at all.But really Niamh,it didnt make me feel much better,cause even when I do believe,its such a sad excuse for talking to our loved ones.I took a friend of mine whos mom just died,also whos boyfriend killed himself a few years back,she wanted to go but was scared to go alone.I thought,"if we sit down and alice says "Im bringing through 2 people,guy and women"I'm gonna freak out."sure enough,thays how it started..idk.I feel she might b the real deal.She told me my dad and I are part of the same "soul mate" group and we have had past lifes together.She stressed more then anything how deeply he loves me.she actually got teary eyed because she said the feeling was so strong,the love so deep.Its worth going,but go when your ready.I hope work is going good for you.I hope your mom is holding up.I miss talking to you.Thanks for being there for me,once again,my dear friend.I love youxoxo Lou(I love how you call me that,reminds me of him)p.s.thats a great song for him to give you.I have heard it before but didnt much listen..wow.thats perfect!

Hi Drock,Im so sorry for your loss.I was just reading on the web about the infamous "21 grams"(you know,supposedly when we die our bodies lose 21 grams thought by some to be our soul or spirit)and I'm sorry to not have the link,I dont know how to do that,but if you google 21 grams at death,you will find this guys testament that as he held his mother while she died of cancer,and at the time of her death he felt a huge rush of energy come out of her into him.It was beautiful to read,andof course I thought of your post.He said exactly what you did!Its amazing and I had to share.

im so sorry for your loss.I just wanted to say that my dad died suddenly of a heart attack.he shed a single tear right before he went.while they were waiting for help they were yelling things like,"dont die!your family loves and needs you,dont go!"needless to say,that tear has kept me up many nights,and has caused many melt-downs.I have researched it,but no one has an answer of course.I really understand the NEED to know.I think that my dad was sad and didnt want to go.When I read your post,the first thing I thought was that your mom was finally comforted,and maybe even was seeing old loved ones coming to take her home.I know my thoughts dont help,and I wish I had the answer.For both of us.After a year and a half,I have finally come to terms with the fact that I wont truly know until its time.Good luck to you dear.

Hi all,I'm hoping to get some thoughts on this so here goes..some of you know that last year I went to see a famous medium to connect with my Dad.I left feeling confused and sad.I got a reading,but it was not really a good one.about 1/2 and 1/2 and very general.I still to this day dont know if I even believe or what I believe.So,anyway I have a friend that I never talk to,but somehow talked to her,she had a friend that died last year,and her grief therapist referred her to this 'local' medium.She was blown away,so of course I went to see her.As soon as I sat,she asked me not to say a thing about the person I wanted to talk to,and right away,said a man rushes right up.He died not old(she said she was old,he wasnt old old)my dad died at 49.good looking,funny,blah blah.Needless to say I was convinced.she read me for an hour and a half.I still cant believe how good she was.(down to saying he was alone when his spirit left his body,and sitting up)he was in a car.I could go on and on,but I have a point...she stressed that our loved ones WANT to help us from the other side,but they help in ways they used to.She said her father sold houses so now he finds great houses for the family.I took a friend for a reading and she stressed this with her as well...So my car has been messed up for a few months,when you hit the gas it would stall.I even got in a accident,a car rammed my back end.So I was on the phone w my boyfriend and said,(not thinkin)I will just have my dad fix it...oops,I forgot he was dead..cried all day.Anyway,guess what?when I went to get it fixed,it already WAS fixed,I swear!Then the mediums voice popped in my head,saying"they want to help,just ask."Does anyone think it could be my dad?please comment,I'm going nuts.

I went and had a (2) reading done from a hometown medium...It was amazing.Of course,I still doubt and question,but it really was amazing.I just wish somehow I could KNOW she was true,but I have a questioning mind,and cant help but go back and forth.

Jessy,I could almost have written this to my dad,myself.I lost my Dad a year and a half ago(so long ago,yet so short)and I miss him so much still,I cant breath sometimes.My son was 2 when dad passed on,and looks just like my dad.my dad died suddenly of a heart attack at 49.Just wanted to say sorry for your loss and pain.I share the feelings,and wonder if it will ever get better.....

Hi,Niamh.Havnt talked in a while...I'm out of words too,but wanted to tell you guys that I'm still reading,and I'm still struggling too.I feel EXACTLY the way you two are.(and so many others)I'm sorry for all the pain.I wonder when it starts to fade?I miss him so so much.Everyday I cry for him.Not talking to my brother right now.I'm just so lost,lonely and sad.still.always.send me a message sometime,Niamh.I miss you...xoxoxo

daughter,today,this post has brought me to tears.It's been a year and 3 months since mine died,and I have had my 2nd bday.Today my brother is driving to ohio by himself to spread some of his ashes in dads home town.My heart is so heavy that I cant go,and I miss my Dad so much right now,that I dont know what to do with the grief.I feel that we are a part of our parents,and now that he is gone so is a great part of me.The waves of pain come and go,sometimes I feel so strong that I'm proud.Lots of times I feel so heartbroken I dont feel I will ever get over it.I know that I always feel that no one in my life understands or even cares.I'm sorry for your saddness.I know it so well.I feel like my dad has been coming through with signs,subtle ones lately.I hope its true,and maybe thats why I have been missing him so much.Good luck on this journey.To us all.xoxo

I'm sorry for your loss.I just want you to know how hard it was for me.My Dad died unexpectedly a little over a year ago.Like your grandma,he raised me,was my best friend.We at least talked on the phone daily,and I would go running to his house each time I had ANYTHING wrong.At the time of his death I had a 2 year old and a 9 year old.It was soo hard to do anything but cry everyday,all day.I would yell at my kids all the time,cry all day long,and I mean cry.Like sitting on the floor sobbing.I had no help,my husband works all day every day.My mom,was busy with her boyfriend and life,my husbands family were not around.It got to the point where my husband and mom were saying things like,"Im worried about the kids with you"...I have no advice for you but I understand how very hard it is,and want you to know that you will settle a bit.Its new and takes a long time.Over a year later,I have a 4 month old on top of the other two,and still I grieve daily,cry daily,and miss him so much it hurts my chest.My kids still see me cry,but I think its ok,because death is a part of life,and so is deep love.I loved him with every cell,and the tears are a testament to that love and loss.I dont know,I'm still lost too.I just have been there with the kid stuff.You are not alone.

I answer myself too!I'm sorry for everyones pain.I also feel this way.Miss talking to him so much.I can't believe there was a time my phone rung off the hook,so much so I wouldnt bother answering sometimes!I knew I could call him back in a few minutes...What I wouldn't give for just one more chance.I have come across a local "medium".Hopefully it will be better then the first medium readingI had.I'm not expecting much,but wouldnt be nice to KNOW they can hear us?I know most people here believe,but I guess I still doubt.If I knew he was around in some way,maybe I could heal a little.