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Gin

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  1. Kay, thoughts and prayers for you for your surgery. Gin
  2. Mitch, know exactly how you feel. No joy anymore. Sorry you are feeling so lousy. Sometimes I see no point of getting out of bed. Now with this virus, there is no more health club or church activities. Thinking about you. Gin
  3. I was married 31 yrs. to my first husband before we were divorced. I went to a group at the church for widowed and divorced. I ended up getting married to another member. Unfortunately, I did not listen to my friends. Very unsettling time. He then took his life a year later. I met Al about 6 yrs. later. He was the best ever. We did everything with and for each other. What a prize I got. We were only married 15 years. Beautiful years. I still miss him so very much. Gin
  4. Karen, brother scheduled to go to Florida to live near a daughter. I still do not think he should be living alone. He calls me a lot and I usually try to calm him down about something. So sad to see the mind deteriorate. He was head of engineering for a big company. Now he told me that he can not add a column of numbers. Gin
  5. Marg, Guess we have no choice. My brother has Alzheimer’s now and I try to talk to him a few times a day. So hard to watch someone just keep slipping away.
  6. Kay, I miss Al more and more, also. This pandemic and rioting makes it even worse. We were so good with and for each other. Gin
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    Hi Jen,

    No motivation here at all.  I used to go to the health club several times a week.  No more and I am getting weaker.  How much weaker can an 80 yr. old feel?  Used to do things with several church groups.  No more.  Lunch once a week with my friend.  Don’t see her anymore.  Do not even see neighbors.   The grief is horrible and now we add all this.  I wanted to work in my messy closet, but I have not done it.  It is too hot to walk outside, so I just walk back and forth in the house.  Hope those riots do not start up again on the weekend.  Hope you get out a little today, Jen.
    Gin
     
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      Gwenivere

      I didn’t know there was this kind of messaging here.  Took me by surprise.  Sounds like such long horrid days for you.  I am familiar with them tho I’ve managed some escapes.  Getting less helpful because they are so hard.  All my stuff has dried up too.  I know we aren’t the only people in this predicament, but it’s hard to keep hat in mind and does it really help knowing we aren't the only ones?  I mean, what does hat change for us living it?  I guess knowing we aren’t some kind of freak.  That’s the best I can come up with.  Sorry you are having heat.  That would be the topper here.  I know its coming  someday and will have to tackle that.  I don’t even care about the riots anymore.  Burned out on all the chaos.  

      Jen

  8. We were supposed to open here tomorrow on a limited basis. With all the recent riots and looting, I doubt that will happen. My excitement for today will be to put away the groceries I ordered and do one load of laundry. That will be enough pain for the day. All trains and busses are cancelled going to downtown area. Gin
  9. Kieran,. I feel the same way. My city, Chicago, was shaken the last 3 nights and I wonder what tonight will bring. So sad. Restaurants were supposed to open on Wednesday for outdoor dining. These places were destroyed. Hope it all stops soon. Grief, the virus, and now this! Too much. Gin
  10. karen, Just heard the mayor put the city on lockdown from 9 pm thru 6 am indefinitely.
  11. Karen, Lots of riots, looting, etc. here in Chicago, also. What a waste! Gin
  12. Karen, I know how you feel. Al and I always hosted cookouts for the family. We worked so hard and we both enjoyed it. Now, it is just another day. Didn’t even put out a flag. Had a hard time filling up the hours. Yes, painful memories.
  13. Karen, I am enjoying the Crown, also. Sorry about your tooth pain. Gin
  14. Marg, I watched Longmire and Heartland BECAUSE you recommended them. Now I watch Highway to Heaven, the Crown and Outlander. I lost several of my antenna tv channels because the Willis (Sears) tower got flooded and no electricity. Guess it ended transmissions. I rely now on Netflix. Gin
  15. Karen, Thinking of you and hoping your day was not too bad. These days are hard to deal with. My daughter is coming over today and sit in the yard with me for an hour. This pandemic is so hard on everyone. Gin
  16. Not much good in this area. I am feeling overwhelmed, as are so many of us. My grandson had some epileptic seizures and fell and hurt his neck. My brother had early dementia. His wife of 61 years died a few months ago and he has regressed exponentially. He does not want anyone coming to his house to check on him and certainly does not want to go to assisted living. With this virus, this would not be a good time, anyway. My son is in Mexico and thinks this is all a hoax. He takes no precautions. No wonder I do not sleep much. I have not seen my daughters for 4-5 weeks. They are both in health care and do not want to give me anything. A friend of mine from church died from the virus. Hard to even force myself to get up in the morning. I so miss Al and wish I could be locked down with him. This is such a hard time for all of us! Thankful for telephones, internet, grocery deliveries and all of you. Gin
  17. I am here, also. Have not done much of anything, even tho there are plenty of hours available. I have no desire to do anything. Getting really lazy. I walk in the yard...back and forth from the back steps to the alley. Called a few people. Have seen no people. I will probably order some groceries to be delivered. Keep safe and healthy. Gin
  18. My daughter works with the disabled. She has a group of about 12. Their hygiene is not that great. There was a lot of flu there the last few weeks. She never misses work, but now she has a fever and sore throat and great fatigue. She called the doc and his guess was the flu. Apparently you have to be at deaths door to even get tested for the flu, let alone the new virus. She was told that if she shows up at a clinic, they will turn her away. No one wants sick people around. The health system is really messed up. I know that I am at high risk, but I will see if she will come by me so I can help her. This isolation is really taking a toll on me and everyone else. They finally tested her today. She won't find the results for a few days. Gin
  19. Filled out the online census form and submitted it today. Another reminder that yes, I am the only one living here. Just me, no Al.
  20. Dee, thanks for your input. My brother wants to stay in his house (understandable). I am not that close by , but I hope I can help sometimes. I talk to him everyday, but that is not the same. Hope his daughters figure out a way to get him help. Ideally, I would think hiring someone for 4-6 hours a day would work. He says no. Gin
  21. My 84 yr old brother lives about an hour away. He has some dementia which has gotten a lot worse since his wife died a few months ago. His daughter from fla came in to help him, but she is going home this week. We had a family meeting at my house yesterday. He was at the doc last week and he did not think my bro was that bad. My bro thinks he is fine. He is not. He has another daughter and granddaughter near by, but I pushed to get someone to live in. No way! I cannot even imagine what he will do when his daughter goes back. Cannot imagine the doctor thinking he is ok. Even to drive! And the loneliness! I call him every day, but that is nothing like having someone in the house. Gin
  22. Kay, I have been trying for years to try to him get involved with the VA. He was in the navy for 8 years. Being this far away from him makes it so difficult. I do not have much, if any, control. Just hope he gets the help he needs. Gin
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