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Thanks for your encouragement. I did talk to two docs. One told me that I took such good care of him that I probably gave him extra time. It still didn't help. I always think I could have done more. I think his decline was gradual and I did not notice it day to day. Family told me that they never thought he would not last for the last year or two.
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I think if you read through the threads here you'll find you are not alone in your feelings. Feeling guilt, whether deserved or not, seems to be a common grief response. It's important you also acknowledge everything you did do for him and keep it in perspective. Marty has some great links on guilt on this site.
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Hi hollow heart,
This is so very hard. On top of losing our loved one, we have guilt on top of it. I guess we think we have more power than we really do. Thanks for sharing. My loss was 7 weeks ago.
gin
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Hi, mine was a month ago. I know we didn't do enough to save my sister. SO MUCH guilt there. I know people are telling me it's not my fault but we didn't give her a chance. I know I should be encouraging but I do believe I caused her death because I let her lay there instead of calling 911 so it's the same as actually killing her. I know she would be alive today. She didn't even get a chance in the hospital. We found her dead then we called 911. What idiots! As long as she was still breathing she had a chance and we took that from her. I let her down and let her die. It is my fault.
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hi Gwen,
thanks for your encouraging words. I am glad this forum exists for us folks. This is a hard, hard road for us all. Sometimes I feel as though I do nothing all day. I miss him so much.
gin
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Hi Gin,
i just found this as I don't think to check messages. I'm pleased whatever I said helped. So many have helped me. I can't imagine going thru this without the people I have found here.
I know that feeling of not doing anything all day and hate it. Sometimes I remind myself that just getting out of bed us an accomplishment. If is a time to be as encouraging of ourselves as I have come to see the outside world hasn't got a clue of what this is like.
I keep missing my guy more every day, unlike the perception I will 'get used to it'. Nothing is farther than the truth. Each day is just a longer time without that love and connection that we forged and made us complete.
My very best to you.
Gwen
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