Tachi Posted August 31, 2018 Report Share Posted August 31, 2018 I need help and advice. I've tried googling and it seems obvious answer but not clearly stated. Maybe I am just an idiot and a fool. Two days ago dad suddenly gets on fire to do estate planning. he wants to make it as easy as possible for me since I will be handling things. The problem is he thinks that I should have planned how to handle things after he passes. Ive honestly never heard that before. It's always been my understanding that the person with the estate write a will and creates an estate plan. And thats great that he started doing that except...this is the first time he has talked about it and the first time he has mentioned that I should do it. And instead of just asking me to do it or asking me to help him he repeatedly and very rudely tells me how wonderful he is for helping because I havent done my job. He IS capable of doing it and I would have been fine helping if I knew he wanted me to. As it is I have spent the better part of the last two days researching things we can do to make it easier, like having a POD on his bank accts. yet he still rather rudely tells me im not doing anything. I just dont get it. I told him that it wasnt my place to do that, which he thinks it is. I point out that since he asked me to help ive spent all my time ...doesnt do any good. He still tells me im not doing anything. Another question, executing an estate as ive read is very serious. If you dont do it correctly you are legally and financially liable. Since ive never done it before I informed him that I would be talking to an atty to make sure I understand the process. Especially since he wants to put my name on the deed to the house. That scares me so i want advice first, am I crazy wanting to counsel with an atty? Am I crazy that it is primarily his responsibility to make his own estate plans? Very lost here guys and at the point where I just cant talk with my dad. he went Jr High on me and says he went out of his way spending his time doing MY job on the estate planning but hes not doing any more. According to him his only job is to write his will and die. Anyway, yes im extremely upset. I have been out of work and studying to get into IT, was a couple weeks from the exam for my first certification. I cant really afford to move out of his house so im stuck. How do you deal with someone who thinks they are never wrong and have to always make themselves feel superior? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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