teny Posted June 21, 2007 Report Share Posted June 21, 2007 life goes on but idont feel part of it .Im astranger watchig days go by.Some people say that god has areason why things happen. I cant understand why iwas left alone and God did not answer my prayers I was so deeply in love and YIanni such aloving person>There are days I have no gourage to be part of life without him by my side life is emty.In july Im starting counceling with a new doctor .My hope is that he will be more support .Thank you for answering my tears TENY. I Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lorikelly Posted June 21, 2007 Report Share Posted June 21, 2007 Teny. For so long i just felt like i was exsisting. nothing seemed to matter. i questioned what life was worth. i have less of those days and when they do come i pray for them to end soon. my therapy, faith and meds have helped me alot. your are always in my prayers. God Bless Lori Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rockgal70 Posted June 21, 2007 Report Share Posted June 21, 2007 I know exactly how you feel. I met my husband when I was 18. We were together for 18 years, 15 of them married. In the beginning I didn't know how to do anything without him, even though I'm a very independant woman. Now after months of meds and therapy, I'm getting there. Sometimes I have to tell myself that I can do this on my own, and sometimes that just doesn't work. So I sit and grieve, wait for it to pass again, whether it's a day or a week, and then I try to move again. Small steps, an hour at a time. Today was a good day for me. Tomorrow may not be. I try to remind myself that I need to grieve as much as I need to get on with living. It's all about finding a balance - do only what you have to do to take care of yourself. Bathe, eat, pay the bills. Everything else can wait. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shell Posted June 22, 2007 Report Share Posted June 22, 2007 Teny,I, too, have felt the same feelings. Like I'm watching myself trying to get through life. It's very surreal. Sherry gave you some great advice about how to "get through it" all. One day at a time and do whatever you feel comfortable doing and the heck with the rest. It will get "easier" to cope with as time goes by, but sometimes it takes a long time to feel even slightly "normal" again. As we've said many times on this site, it will never be normal again...you will have a new normal. Hang in there and grieve as much and as long as you need to.A big hug to you,Shell Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teny Posted June 22, 2007 Author Report Share Posted June 22, 2007 THANK YOU HOW LONG HAS IT BEEN FOR YOU ? TENY Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shell Posted June 23, 2007 Report Share Posted June 23, 2007 TENY,My father died two and a half years ago and my mom just passed away two weeks ago. So I've been through it all with my dad, but it's like having to start fresh now that my mom has left me. Hugs,Shell Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trudy1964 Posted June 23, 2007 Report Share Posted June 23, 2007 Teny,The time frame is different for everyone. My Mom passed July 21, 2007. It's gotten better in a lot of ways. It's a different kind of pain now. Take one moment at a time. Cry when you need to cry. Come here to vent. We've all been through the same thing. Counceling is very good. He'll help you to understand that everything your going through is normal. We're all here for you too. I'm sending a special prayer your way.Missing my Mom,Trudy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rockgal70 Posted June 24, 2007 Report Share Posted June 24, 2007 My husband passed away in Oct 2006... just 8 months ago. Sometimes it seems like its been a lifetime and other times like it was today. He was only 39. I miss him so much this weekend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shell Posted June 25, 2007 Report Share Posted June 25, 2007 Rockgal,A big hug to you! Time gets very strange when you're grieveing, doesn't it? Shell Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teny Posted June 25, 2007 Author Report Share Posted June 25, 2007 My husband passed away in Oct 2006... just 8 months ago. Sometimes it seems like its been a lifetime and other times like it was today. He was only 39. I miss him so much this weekend.I khow how you feel .Weekends are so hard. I miss my life together .It is sohard for all of us .And yes SHELL time gets very strange THANKS TENY. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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