STARKISS Posted April 5, 2008 Report Share Posted April 5, 2008 Hi All, The family has bought a new dog... Everyone is so excited about it but me... I am so heart broken when I see it I miss my Chelsea girl so very much... The other thing is that I just imagine how much this dog will be because my sister and her husband are only home from 630pm till 7am most days accept for weekends... so I will be the only doing most of the work which I have enough to do with the three kids and cleaning the house now... What if I can not love this dog....Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suzanne Posted April 5, 2008 Report Share Posted April 5, 2008 ShelleyI think you will fall in love with the new dog. Although it will not replace Chelsea all of our furry ones give such unconditional love and devotion you won't be able to stop yourself. Hearts are meant to love, even the broken ones.Suzanne Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnieO Posted April 6, 2008 Report Share Posted April 6, 2008 Shelley,I felt the same way when I got my new dog. I was so sure I wouldnt be able to love him like I loved my other dog. It didnt take long....I am crazy about this puppy! He isnt anything like my other dog(other than being big, hairy and drooling) but I found a whole new place in my heart for him. I didnt think I had room for him in my heart, but I did. I cant imagine not having him with me now. I know puppies are alot of work, I am sorry you feel this puppy will be your responsibility, but I know you will grow to love him/her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elizabeth A. Posted April 6, 2008 Report Share Posted April 6, 2008 Dear Shelley, I worried about this when you mentioned the posibility before. I'm sorry about this added weight to your shoulders. Why don't you try to tell us about the dog. Is he little? Ugly? Drooling? Smelly and sweet? Take care of yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted April 10, 2008 Author Report Share Posted April 10, 2008 Hi Elizabeth A,Well you answer you... It is a shepoo(sorry do not know how to spell it) He is black and small and barks... but I just feel if I love him how can I face Chelsea who I loved so much but turned my back on when she needed me the most... Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elizabeth A. Posted April 12, 2008 Report Share Posted April 12, 2008 Oh dear, you and I both know it wasn't like that. You didn't choose to leave Chelsea, you were standing there right by her when the force of life wrapped around you and grabbed you by the sholder and ripped you around into a different direction. It doesn't make what happened fair by any reach of the imagination, but it does make it life. Chelsea, being like most animals smarter than human's give them credit for knows the force of what happened. She might not understand, but she knows, just like she knows the sun will come up tomorrow, and that there will always be dinner and fresh water to drink. Love for anyone dog, cat, friend, family will never cover the love you feel for Chelsea. It is unique and special, because you share it with her and her alone, only Shelley and Chelsea could have that relationship. You will have a new different relationship with the new dog, it doesn't mean that you don't love Chelsea. If I told you that the deaths of my friends meant I couldn't have anymore friends, you'd think I was being silly. But that doesn't change how we feel. sometime in the future I will make new friends. They will never ever, ever replace my old ones not in life and not in my heart, but it doesn't mean it wont be a great friendship. ;-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted April 14, 2008 Author Report Share Posted April 14, 2008 Well, I really do not know since tonight earlier the little pup jumped from my arms and starting crying and yelping alot.... Everyone came running and the first thing my brother in law said was what did you do to the dog... All I could do is back away as my sister went to the dog and helped it and I stood a side and cried very hard... All I can think of what if the dog dies I would have killed one of God's innocent creatures... I am still crying and worrying if the dog is okay... My sister says it was really scared and seems to be fine.... Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elizabeth A. Posted April 18, 2008 Report Share Posted April 18, 2008 Maybe his toe caught on something? Or he twisted his arm/paw? Maybe you were sitting and moved a little on his tail? Sometimes things happen that we have no control over. Shoot it's possiable he did something earlier when no one was home and all you did was touch him. You are not a murderer, you have never sought out to kill something, so try not to put to much stock into this though seemingly big, rather small event. I bet the dog doesn't even remember, and if he does he's willing to move past it.My aunt and uncle have two cats, whom they love no matter what. Once one of the cats had his tail flicked out where the rolling kitchen chairs they have rolled over his poor tail and the cat went running and hid. For a period of time he wasn't such a lover, but today, which is years later you can feel where the chair wheel broke the tip of the cat's tail because it didn't set quite right. My guess is no one, not even the cat remember's who did it. It wasn't on purpose. No one in that family would have hurt that dear sweet cat knowingly. Yes he bears the mark of what happened, but all is forgiven and the cat has long since gone back to his normal old routines. Maybe that helps, I hope it does. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted April 30, 2008 Author Report Share Posted April 30, 2008 Hi All,At first having a new dog around made me miss Chelsea alot but now it is sort of a companion for me during the day.... I still miss Chelsea and have asked to see her several times which my brother said that he was busy and did not want people at the house at each time I asked... This makes me wonder if he wants me to see her anymore... That makes me even more worried about her and what will happen when she dies.... Sadly Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted December 30, 2008 Author Report Share Posted December 30, 2008 Hi All,It is me again I know I said good bye seven months ago but It being Christmas time makes me feel all sad and miserable again... I still do not get to see Chelsea very often I think once a year now is all I get to see her.. I feel like maybe she should have been given away to someone different because living this way just makes it worst for me... The thought of each time saying good bye not really knowing when the next visit will come or if it comes because maybe Chelsea dying before hand... I am just so very sad right now and just do not know how to handle what I am feeling... I am seriously thinking about telling them to get rid of her so I can get on with my life and grief over her so I can get on with my life but is that fair for Chelsea who is caught in the middle of all this... Sadly shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted January 21, 2009 Report Share Posted January 21, 2009 Shelley,Years ago I agreed to take a dog, Lucky, that needed a new home. Just the Wed. before the Sun. we were to get her, my Fluffy dog passed away. It broke my heart. We were all so attached to Fluffy and no one could take his place. But we'd agreed to take Lucky, and she needed a home, so we did.Today I posted about losing Lucky. Both dogs were special in their own right. I still miss Fluffy, I always will, but now I am missing Lucky too.Give the new dog a chance...he will not replace your Chelsea, but he will create a spot in your heart for himself if given the chance. Each one we have enhances our lives as we get to know them and develop a relationship with them.I'm sorry you are hurting, I know how it feels.Love,KayC Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted February 9, 2009 Author Report Share Posted February 9, 2009 Hi All,Well the new dog is history, but not the way you think... Bogey bit someone and drew blood and so the parents have decide to find him a new home... My poor nephew Matthew is so heart broken and can not believe that his parents want to give away his best friend... The rest of the kids really have not shown any emotions but when Bogey is gone I bet they will... I believe or not are very heart broken and can not believe Bogey will be gone soon...I hope that they do as they say and find poor Bogey a good home someone to truly love him like he really needs... Very Tearfully Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted February 10, 2009 Report Share Posted February 10, 2009 Shelley,I'm sorry to hear that. It's important to find a pet that is a good fit with a home and vice-versa. Hopefully someone who will be that perfect fit will be found for Bogey. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted February 12, 2009 Author Report Share Posted February 12, 2009 Hi All,My family is so very weird, there is talk about getting rid of Bogey but that is all that is happening and if they want to get rid of Bogey than just do it... Instead of torturing everyone with the talk after talk about it... I think if a dog believes it is in danger it will fight back and that is why Bogey bit the little boy...The little boy laid on him and than jump on his paw and so Bogey bite him... I am not making excuses for the dog but dogs has feelings and if they think they are in danger than they find away to protect themselves... Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted February 12, 2009 Author Report Share Posted February 12, 2009 Here we go again, Let's get into yet another fight about the dog....I am so very stressed right now, I do not know how much more I can take.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MartyT Posted February 12, 2009 Report Share Posted February 12, 2009 Hi Shelley,I don't know where your family is right now with this matter of relinquishing Bogey, and I don't know if you have any say in the matter anyway ~ but I think it's important to know that today there are specialists in animal behavior and/or obedience training, who can offer you some alternatives in dealing with any dog's troublesome behavior. You'll find a number of them listed on my site's Animal Behavior Specialists page. Has your family ever watched Cesar Millan's television program, The Dog Whisperer, on the National Geographic channel? That might be one way to expose them to the idea that, instead of "getting rid of" Bogey, there are other alternatives they may want to consider first. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted February 13, 2009 Author Report Share Posted February 13, 2009 Hi All,We have decided to take Bogey to Obedience school and see if that works, Hopefully we can get Bogey to learn what it takes to make him not bite anymore... We love him so very much and we want him to stay... Please pray this helps and we will be able to keep our dear Bogey... Take care Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted March 30, 2009 Author Report Share Posted March 30, 2009 Hi All,I just wanted everyone to know that our new dog Bogey left with his new owners tonight and my heart is broken... We had him for a year and a half and he was with me everyday... The kids are being much braver than me... I love you Bogey and hope you enjoy your new family Tearfully Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted April 9, 2009 Author Report Share Posted April 9, 2009 Hi All,Just wanted everyone to know that the family has brought another dog into the house... The dog was brought in on a trial basis and after the weekend they will decide what to do... Thanks for listening.. Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MartyT Posted April 9, 2009 Report Share Posted April 9, 2009 Oh Shelley! I so hope this works out well for all of you! Do keep us posted on how it's going, and when you're ready to do so, we'd love to know all about this new fur person in your life Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted April 9, 2009 Author Report Share Posted April 9, 2009 Hi Marty,Yes I will share information about her once they decide if they want her or not... Personally I have not gotten close to her so that I do not end up with a broken heart again... I have now been around five dogs that have become close to me and since been given away for one reason or another so this time I am being careful... Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted April 12, 2009 Author Report Share Posted April 12, 2009 Hi All,Well it is 85 percent true that Pepsi the Labadoodle will be the next furbaby that the family will take on... She is almost one year old and the family she had before this one has no time for her so they are as heartbroken as I was when we gave up Bogey but knew it was for the best that she was given up for adoption... Jamie really loves her and the kids are loving her and I just can not imagine her leaving us on Monday... I will try and show you a picture of her... I will also add Chelsea, Bogey, and Bailey as well... Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted April 14, 2009 Author Report Share Posted April 14, 2009 Hi All,Well friends we have another dog, Her name is Pepsi and she is a labadoodle and she is adorable... I will try and show you a picture when I have one... I did not want to become close because of the thought of getting my heart broken again but now I know she is here to stay I will start loving her again... Not that I will ever stop loving Bogey, or Chelsea.... Take care Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MartyT Posted April 14, 2009 Report Share Posted April 14, 2009 Oh Shelley ~ You're right up there with the First Family, taking a new pup into your heart Always remember, Shelley, that we human beings have an infinite capacity to love, and when it comes to animals, you can always find another chamber in your heart for another dog to fill, if you're ready and willing to be open to the possibility, and that does not diminish in any way the love you will always have for Bogey and Chelsea. I am looking forward to seeing a picture of this labradoodle named Pepsi ~ I mean, how cute is that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted April 20, 2009 Author Report Share Posted April 20, 2009 Hi All,As most of you know we have a new pet, I am having a very rough time right now because the more I try to love this dog the worst it seems... I just can not get close to it and this is really upsetting me because I am a real animal lover... Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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