Deb625 Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 I'm now just past the 3 month mark since I lost my Michael (he was 45) and I just feel like a broken record telling my "story" again and again. I know no one want to hear again and again how much I loved him, miss him and can't fathom a life without him - they loved him too; however they are in reality back to their own lives. I feel like I'm doing the best job that I can in getting through this, but the loss is so different to other people i.e. yes, the loved Michael and yes they miss him, but they don't understand that for me it's not just weekends and holidays that I realize he's not around for me it is every day, every minute. They don't get that going to bed at night without a good night kiss and a conversation is dibilitating, they don't understand that you now have to actually create a new life one where you are suddenly (not by choice) alone (grocery shopping, cooking....). I don't know what to do. Do you start ignoring this "world" and just pretend everything is okay and that this terrible "thing" didn't happen? Or do you stay the course and put the people you love through your grief (they do love me and hate to see me hurt). I guess I just feel "guilty" hearing back from other friends that "so and so" loves you and is trying to help, but is so powerless to help (and they are - It's me going through this - I get that). I know how important it is to reach out, but I guess what I'm asking is what are we supposed to do about the guilt making others go through this journey with us? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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