melina Posted October 19, 2010 Report Share Posted October 19, 2010 I'm very worried about our youngest son who is 19. I've been reading about teenagers and grief on the internet, and there are so many sites that warn about teenage boys especially keeping their feelings to themselves and how harmful it is. Our son showed a lot of emotion at the hospital when his father died, at the funeral and when we spread the ashes at sea. Since then, he's kept mostly to himself up in his room with his guitar and music equipment, making music. I've asked him a few times if he'd like to talk about his grief or his father, but he doesn't want to. Nor is he willing to meet with a grief counselor or join a support group. My husband was diagnosed with cancer the summer before our son started his last year of high school and got to see him graduate. But from the time we got the diagnosis, our son lost interest in school. He graduated and got decent grades, but has shown no interest at all in further studies at college. Gradually over the last couple of weeks he's come out of his room more. We always have dinner together and we go to the gym twice a week as an activity we do together. He's started a Japanese language class one night a week in the city, and has visited his brother in the same city for rock concerts a few times. But he rarely sees his old friends from high school and doesn't talk to people much. I'm not sure if he keeps in touch on chat lines or Facebook. I don't know what to do. I can't force him to talk to me. I'm not even sure that's a good idea. Maybe some people grief differently than others, and that he just needs more time. I've offered to talk, but at the same time, I feel emotionally crippled myself. Maybe he senses that and is afraid to open up to me because he thinks I might fall apart. I wish he had uncles or aunts to talk to. He has his brothers, but of course, they're grieving too. Any ideas? I'm so afraid he'll remained emotionally scarred. I know I've posted this before - but it worries me a lot. Melina Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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