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Simply beautiful! My Harv loved trees so much. We have an old oak tree that is over 100 years old. It's huge and he couldn't wait to put a swing from one of the branches for the grandson that was born 3 weeks after Harv crossed over.

I totally understand and thought that was probably why, but I had to ask. Thank you for answering! I respect this site so much, and your reply validates one more time why I do. Love, Pam

I hope I'm not committing a faux pas, but why did the post with the link for the chat disappear? I know it's the second time it's been removed. Is it not a reputable link? Peace and love, Pam

Kristin, I'm so sorry for your loss, my husband crossed over last year on July 4th. I have said before that I wish we could all be close enough to comfort each other with hugs and words of understanding. But, this forum is the next best thing. Know that you are not alone and you have many that are hurting for and with you. I hope you have some moments of peace tonight. Peace and love, Pam

This has made me also start thinking about many things... I have done things in the past year since my husband crossed over. Things that in the past I would never think I was capable of doing. There have also been many times that I thought how much better for my family it would be if it had been me that died instead. But, it wasn't and all I can do is keep on keepin' on. My Harv was my biggest cheerleader, he always told me I was much more capable than I gave myself credit for. So now, I remember him telling me that and I try to honor him be believing that. But, sometimes it's just freakin' hard. Peace and love to all. Pam

Oh my, that describes it perfectly. Thank you so much for sharing it. Peace and love, Pam

I too would like to join in the hatred. I also had a person ask how my "hubby" was doing. I did feel bad for her as I know she thought a lot of him and was truly upset. Peace and love, Pam

Lately I've been waking up thinking he's holding my hand only to realize I'm holding my own hand. When he was on life support I remember our son saying he had the strongest hands he had ever known.

July 4th was the one year date of my husband of 34 years crossing over. I spent that day and the next with my two sons, daughter in law and grandbaby. It's just been in the last few days that I've been so incredibly sad, angry and missing him so much. I feel like I'm hanging on by the fragilest of threads and if it breaks I will fall and shatter into a million pieces. I wonder if he sees me?

Vickie, all I can say is I hear you and I send you a long, hard hug. I guess I have one more thing to say; Damn.... Peace and love, Pam

I just wanted to tell you, I hear you and I'm thinking of you. I send you hugs and hopes of some peace for you tonight. Love, Pam

Oh Dave, I'm so sorry this happened. Wish there was some way I could help. Love, Pam

If I did, I'm sorry, but I didn't mean to imply it was. I was just sharing thoughts. Love and Peace, Pam

Let me preface this by saying, I have certainly felt the same as many of you on different occasions while listening to others gripe about their husbands. Then, I remembered I had done the same in the past. I married my Harv when I was 18 and he was 21. We were married 34 years on july 4th, 2011 when he crossed over. I loved him with all my heart and I still miss him with all my heart. Saying that, I know that there were times(many) that I bitched about things he did or said, not once thinking I may regret saying these things because I might one day wish for him to be here to do or say those very things I was griping about. I'm sure there were times he was not very happy with things I did or said also. So now when I hear women kvetching about their husbands, I wish he was here so I could continue to join in with my complaints as usual. I wish us all some measure of peace on this night. Love, Pam

Mary, tho I know the one shoulder you would love to lay your head on is not physically here, know that many of us would gladly give our shoulders for you to rest your weary head on. I send hugs to you. Love, Pam

Mary, wanted you to know tho I don't post much anymore, I remember your wise and kind words to me at the beginning of my lonely journey thru widowhood. I send hugs to you and hope you have some measure of peace tonight. Love, Pam

Happy Birthday Dave, I wish for you a day of peace and happiness. You deserve it!! Love, Pam (and I won't give you a hard time about your spelling

Lina, my heart breaks for you. My husband died July 4th, 2011. Some of the things you shared, I could relate to so much. I'm so glad his family is supportive of your feelings and wishes. My in-laws were and are the same way. They are my family as well as Harv and I were married 34 years. I am sorry you had to join our group, but you will find many great people here. Please take care of yourself and know that you will be able to breathe again without it hurting someday. I wish for you peace and comfort from knowing you are not alone. Peace and love, Pam

Dave, I am so happy for you, shared love and mutual respect for one another is never wrong! Love and peace, Pam

Dave, I'm so sorry you had that horrible scare! I am so happy for you that you and Ed found each other again. Now you have Cooper finding you also! I will try to call you soon. I've been working many nights for the last few weeks and just trying to slog it out until Spring Break next week. Love, Pam

Aww, Deb, my heart swelled with happiness for you. Mine and my husband's first grandbaby was born about three weeks after he died(unexpectedly) and my grandson has given me a healing perspective and a happiness that I didn't know if I'd ever feel again. The circle of life....Love, Pam

We had a hail storm... But it was pea size and my car is OK!!! And it was a postal holiday, so no bills today. Peace and love, Pam

Melina, My husband and I experienced the "empty nest" about 12 years ago, It was hard enough to go thru then with my husband that I can't even stand to think about how difficult it would be to experience it so close to the passing of my husband. I have been reading your posts and thinking of you (and all of us) and wishing peace for you. Day by day by day is how I'm getting through this. Peace and love, Pam

Oh Harry, I send you warm thoughts of peace and quiet. You are a relentless warrior against that dreaded disease that took your other half. I also am not looking forward to tomorrow. I miss my valentine and always will.. Peace and love, Pam

Happy Birthday Marty. Though I have never met you in person, I feel honored to have felt your warmth, compassion, professionalism and wisdom. Hope you have an awesome birthday! Peace and love, Pam