HSMom Posted July 5, 2006 Report Share Posted July 5, 2006 Hi all:My dad died almost 4 months ago. I was his main caregiver and he died in my home with us and hospice by his side. It was a life changing experience for me. Can't even put it into words yet. But I've changed.I find that I am weeding through relationships that really were shall we say surface after such a life-changing experience. It actually feels good because I am beginning to feel a freeing-quality life. I feel like it's a gift from my dad. To be more specific, I had a friend that was very phony with me and I knew it. She was not reliable and I was. I just kept hanging on for various reasons. Recently I complained on how she was late every time we met for something, how she would come up with ideas for our kids to do some things but never pulled through, how she offered to help when my son was in the hospital but left my daughter hanging for two hours waiting, so we canceled her picking her up and my husband came home from work. And so on and so on....... She got pissed and said "I need a break from you and I'll just chalk this up to your grieving right now." I agreed to the break and then sent her a "closure letter" wishing her well. At first it hurt, but now I feel very free. My dad had told me three years ago to get rid of her because of how she was treating me. I feel like he's orchestrating some of this. He was very good at giving his advice as to what he would do. And I have to smile on that one.So I'm weeding through. Hanging with who I love and feel safe with PLUS who shows love back and treats me with respect. Otherwise, goodbye. Is this a process of grieving? Or is it the chapter in my life? Anyone else experiencing this? Thanks,HSMom Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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