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Hi All,

I am new to this forum and I have been reading posts here for awhile since I too lost my dear Dad on 3/11/10. It will be 3 months next Thursday. I'm am so sorry for all of you here who have also lost a dear parent/loved one. My thoughts and prayers go out to you. I am also having a very difficult time.

My Dad was sick for a year with a heart condition (congestive heart failure and atrial fibrillation) that was brought on by prescription medications. They have such bad side effects. He was always healthy, working in the yard, walking, hiking and traveling. I wish I could turn back the hands of time and prevent it from happening. I can't believe this is happening to me. It doesn't seem real. I just want to wake up from this terrible, terrible nightmare. I want my Dad back so bad. It really hurts.

We honestly did not think he would pass away. My Mom and I tried so hard to get him to exercise and get him well so this day would not have come for a long time. It was not meant to be. It just kills me inside seeing my Dad suffer and there was nothing I could do. I know he tried his best but he was just too tired to exercise much. I would have taken my Dad's illness and given it to me to make him better. I would have died for my Dad if it would have made him better.

My Dad got side effects from his medication such as trouble breathing and being extremely tired.

He just seemed to be getting worse this year with his breathing and being so tired. He got fluid in his ankles, legs and lungs.

We took him to Emergency on Monday. His pulse was high. They gave medicine for that and an IV to get the fluid out. On Tuesday, we visited him in the afternoon so he could get some rest. He looked better and had color in his face again. He was complaining about the service because he didn't get anything to eat or drink, just ice cubes. He seemed to be getting back to his old self. We came back to visit him after 7:00 pm and he seemed to be doing okay. I didn't know that would be the last time I would be able to talk to him.

On Wednesday, everything went wrong. He had a hard time breathing in the morning so they had to put in a breathing tube. He was sedated and put in a sleep state so he wouldn't move. I thought it would be temporary once they get the fluid out. During the night not much fluid came out. They tried everything possible but nothing seemed to work. My Dad's heart was trying so hard to get the fluid out that it was getting weaker. They had all kinds of specialist the whole day. We really didn't get to see him much. I didn't even know he was on life support. His kidneys shut down and there were problems with the liver. When they tried the dialysis, the blood clotted the machine. The second time they tried he was too unstable. It was so hard to see my Dad lying there with tubes and machines hooked up. My Dad was always a strong, vibrant man who was so independent.

How could this nightmare be happening? My world was turned upside down and my Dad was in critical condition. I still had hope. I was praying for a miracle. I had my holy water and rosary. I was not going to give up. He did seem to get his low blood pressure up some what but then his pulse was very high. Then we found out that his blood pressure had been very low for hours. He was not getting enough oxygen to his brain. Even if he could pull through he would have brain damage and probably be confined to a bed and hooked up to machines. That is not what my Dad would want. There was no hope anymore. We had to let him go. That was one of the hardest things to do. It was the best for him because of the condition he was in. They gave him morphine and stopped all medications and shortly after he passed away peacefully.

Losing a parent is one of the hardest things in life. My Dad was my world and my best friend. He was always there for me and it is to hard not having him here anymore in the physical form. He is a great Dad and we all love him very much and miss him terribly. I use the present tense because I know my Dad still lives just in a different dimension.

My Dad was 77 and would have been 78 in August. That is still young to me. Someone once said that some are meant to be healed on this side of the veil and others are meant to be healed on the other side of the veil.

I talk to my Dad all the time and cry a lot. I cry driving to work and driving home. Sometimes the pain is so unbearable and I miss him so much. It hurts so much inside. At times I am filled with such desperation and feel he is so far away. I can't have a two-way conversation anymore. We would talk about many things and day to day things. I can't see him smile or hear his laugh. He didn't do much of that anymore since he was sick.

The people at my work have been really great and sympathetic. You really can not understand what one is going through unless you too have lost a parent. Some people just can't understand. You never really get over it you just learn to live with it. Everyone deals with grief in their own way. In time they say the pain will dull but we will still miss them for the rest of our lives. I too can not find any happiness in life. It is hard to imagine going on for years without my Dad being here.

I had my birthday almost 2 weeks after my Dad passed away. It was so terrible. There was that empty chair at the dinner table and he wasn't there to sing "Happy Birthday" to me. I didn't even want my birthday. There was nothing to celebrate since he wasn't here. My Mom and family wanted to make it special despite the circumstance. My Dad also loved Christmas and I can't even think of celebrating holidays and birthdays without him. Life really sucks. There are people laughing and enjoying their lives and here I am in such grief. I think the world should just stop so I can grieve.

I am attending a biweekly Grief Counseling Group on Saturdays. It does help. There are so many other people also dealing with the loss of a loved one. It is so sad. People talk about it and then some tell us how they are coping with it and what they are doing to move forward and find some happiness in life again. Nothing makes me happy. I watch TV to drown out reality. I also read a lot of books on the AfterLife and that brings me some comfort.

I believe in an afterlife. I have had my Dad come to me in dreams and it is wonderful. Sometimes grief can be so strong that our loved ones in the afterlife cannot come through. We are blocked with grief. They want to communicate with us as much as we want to communicate with them. Just because we can't see them doesn't mean they are not around us. They are closer to us than we think. You can talk to them and they can hear you. I know it isn't the same as them being here in the physical form. I am having a hard time dealing with that. It is better than nothing though. However, to know that my Dad continues to live just in a different place, brings me comfort. He is healed and in the most beautiful place that is filled with love and peace. He is with other loved ones watching over my family and me. I know we will be together again someday.

Sorry for the long post, I just wanted to get everything out.

Sending you love, hugs, comfort and strength.


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no need to apologize for the post being long, Welcome to the boards, The only thing I can really say is I

am very sorry for your loss of your Dad, There is a lot of kind and nice people here and will offer a lot

of support.

I can only wish you the very best and let you know I care, and I'm Sorry for your loss.

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Hi Butterfly 9.

First of all, my deepest condolences to you about your Dad. Second of all here is a cyber hug ((((((( ))))))).

Your post made me cry (which I do a lot these days). I lost my Dad 15 years ago and it still gets to me all the time. Now my Mom is sick and in hospice. You can read her story in most of my posts.

I can relate to what you are going through. I too want to do nothing. My whole life has come crashing down and I care about nothing else. I try to watch TV or read to forget about it but that does very little good. No matter what I do, the reality is always there. Every morning I wake up feeling absolutely horrible and scared to death about everything. I actually want to die sometimes so as not to have to endure all of this. That's how horrible it is. Nothing feels right, nothing feels the same and I cannot get motivated to do anything knowing that my absolute BEST FRIEND OF MY LIFE is dying and will be gone from my life forever. It is the most horrible thing I have ever encountered in my life. Without her, my life will have no meaning, no joy, nothing to look forward to and will be an extremely sad existence. She is everything to me.

It sounds like you and your Dad ARE (not were) very close. That's great! He is with you! I am sure he would want you to carry on and live your life to the fullest.

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hi Butterfly,

welcome to this site, I hope you will get some bit of comfort knowing you are not alone.I am so sorry for the loss of your precious Dad. I just nod away reading your post as if I wrote it myself. Am fighting back the tears as I am in work.

I feel like the shock of it all is hitting me again today for some reason. I like the way you use the present tense, I do that with somethings I say aswell because I do believe he is just somewhere else in a different form. Although I have such a hard time trying to fully understand it which I want to but I guess we all know we dont really get the true answers while we are here but it doesn't stop the questions.

I'm sorry you had your birthday so soon after, that is so difficult, I had mine 2 months later and like you I didn't want it, I wanted to bypass that day just like all other days we would have previously celebrated together. Now all those times are an extra hard reminder. I worry SO MUCH about Christmas sometimes, I try not to think that far ahead but sometimes I can't help it. Time is flying by so fast. I dread it so much, I keep asking myself how can I avoid it, how can I just skip it.

TV is also my only escape, it's like that's all my life is now, work, tv, crying and longing for my Daddy. I don't know what happiness is anymore and to me it feels like I will never have it again. Even if something manages to make me a little happy someday, it will always be tainted with this because Dad won't be here with me for it so I honestly feel that true happiness is gone forever until the day I get to be with him again. (and I wish for that day often, it's the only thing I actually look forward to).

I am glad your Dad has come to you in dreams, I haven't had that and I don't feel him around me at all and it's all I want. I hope that it is just my grief that is blocking him. Sometimes I get paranoid thinking oh he's not gone anywhere, hes just asleep now or I think he's off doing his own thing somewhere else while I'm left here. But then I have to think of the love he has for me and I think he must be doing everything in his power to come to me but I'm just not seeing/feeling it. At least I hope that is why.

well I hope you keep sharing with us here,

sending you hugs and love,


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Hi Butterfly,

The only thing I believe in is afterlife. I know that I will strive all my life to make my belief bear fruit. That I will see my loved one again. The one that we love is always near us and can hear us and does talk to us. When I went to visit her at the cemetery she said to me , "Be free. " Of course it was a monologue but I felt that she meant those words for me and herself as well and they came out of my mouth impromptu.



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Hi Aquarius7,

Thank you so much for the cyber hug and condolences. It really means a lot to me.

I am so sorry for the loss of your dear Dad. It doesn't matter how long ago they have passed away, it still hurts. We will miss them everyday of our lives because we love them so much. That is normal.

I'm so sorry to hear about your dear Mom being ill. I wish I could say something to bring you some comfort. I am always here to listen when you need to talk. Sending you also a cyber hug (((((((( ))))))))). Our Parents mean so much to us and have been such a big part of our lives.

I haven't been motivated for a while since my Dad was sick and passed away. I eat lots of junk food to bring me some comfort. Now my clothes don't fit anymore. I don't really care about things. It is a struggle each day.

I need to find some meaning in my life. I am thinking about doing some charity work to help others. I want do things to honor my Dad and make him proud.

Everyone we love is never gone when they cross over to the other side. They still exist and they are the same person. They continue to love us as they did here. They are always with us helping us through the difficult times. Just because we can't feel their presence does not mean they are not around. I know it isn't the same when they are not here in the physical form but to know they continue to live just in another place brings me comfort. Nothing we love is ever gone. We are always connected to them through our hearts and souls. They are closer to us than we think. We will be together again someday.

I'm sending you hugs, love, comfort and strength to you and your Mom.


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welcome,and Im so sorry for your loss.I too lost my dad (bestfriend)in Jan.I miss him everyday.I still cry everyday,and know what your feeling.Your story is heart-breaking.My dad passed suddenly,2 hours after I had just talked to him.When I was reading your post I thought of how sad that they put him to sleep,and you thought he was gonna awake,just for him not to.I cant imagine how that felt.I just wanted to say I was sorry,and that hopefully being here will help,like it has helped us.Try to take care of yourself.

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Hi Niamh,

Thank you for the warm welcome and condolences. It really means a lot to me. Yes, that is true; there are so many people all over the world going through the same thing. Everyone deals with their loss in different ways. No two people are the same.

So sorry for the loss of your precious Dad also. I read your post about your Dad and it brought tears to my eyes. It too was like I wrote some of the things you were experiencing. Everyone here has a sad story to tell and I cry when I read them.

I have that experience also. It hits me again like I am in shock and can't believe this is true. They say it comes in waves. This life that I am living is so foreign. It is so different. It is a life that I got thrown into when I didn't want it. I want my old life back but I know that isn't going to happen.

Your Dad is alive and well just in another dimension parallel to here. He can hear you when you talk to him. He knows how hard it has been since he has crossed over. He is by your side even if you can't feel him or see him. You and your Dad share a very special bond of love that can never be broken.

Yes, we can't fully understand. There is no death just a rebirth to the afterlife where we continue to live on. I try to think of my Dad living in a foreign country.

I feel the same way you do about Christmas. My Dad loved Christmas and always loved decorating the Christmas tree with Christmas music playing on the stereo. Last year he had a hard time decorating the tree because he had trouble breathing and got tired easily. This year I can't bear it. I don't want to celebrate Christmas but my Family says my Dad wouldn't want us to not celebrate. They said we need to do it for him. Right now I don't want to think about it. It hurts too much.

I pray at night and I ask my Dad to come visit me in my dreams. One has to be open to the subtle signs of communication. Often times we miss the sign. There can be flickering of lights, something electrical, a special song that comes on the radio with a special meaning, dreams, etc. One time I was driving to work and I was crying and I thought to myself, "be happy for him." However, what popped up in my head was "be happy for me." I believe my Dad put the "me" in my head. He wants me to be happy for him because he doesn't have to suffer anymore. I wasn't even thinking of the word me.

Grief can block subtle signs. I can't feel my Dad's presence either but I know he has to be around me. There is a good book to read about ADCs if you are interested. ADC is After Death Communication. The book is called, Hello From Heaven by Bill and Judy Guggenheim. It is an excellent book and brought me lots of comfort.

Our Dad's love us very much and they will never leave us.

I'm sending you hugs, love, comfort and strength.


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Hi Kavish,

I'm glad you also believe in the afterlife and I agree with you what you are saying. It brings me lots of comfort. Yes, I believe those words were meant for you and for her. How beautiful and wonderful. Thanks for sharing.

Take care,


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Hi Lou Lou,

Thank you for the warm welcome and condolences. I really appreciate it.

I am so sorry for the loss of your dear Dad. I know how hard it is. I miss my Dad everyday also and cry a lot. I don’t even care if people see me crying. There are times when this desperation comes over me and the tears start flowing and I just wished my Dad were here. I get this feeling of emptiness. My Dad has left a big void in my life. It is very difficult to deal with.

Thank you for responding to my post. It means a lot to me. The people here are so caring.

Sending you hugs, love, comfort and strength.


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Hi Butterfly,

I am very sorry for the loss of your Dad. I just wanted to thank you for recommending the book, I just ordered it from Amazon. Like someo others I don't feel the presence yet and I feel like I am missing out. I am hoping this book will open my eyes to things that may have been right in front of me that I missed. I hope you have a small bit of piece on Memorial Day today. Keep coming back to the board, there are some really supportive people here. Take care, Elizabeth

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Butterfly,I have a question for you....You seem so solid on life after death.Is it faith that makes you believe?I(like some of my dear friends here) want so badly to believe in it.I always have,but when dad died I didnt have signs of my dad around.I understand Im emotionaly blocked with grief.I have been reading,and researching,and I go strongly back and forth.I even will be seeing a famous medium in 2 months.(CAN NOT WAIT).I guess I just wanted to hear your thoughts,since you seem so sure.I want to have a solid belief,and an understanding of life/death.-lou

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Dear Lou,

I've just finished reading an extraordinary book that you may find helpful, entitled Halfway Across the River: Messages of Hope from the Other Side. It is written by Dr. Annette Childs, a psychologist whose research has focused on her clients' near-death and after-death experiences, and whose practice includes assisting the dying and their families to find peace and meaning as they cope with the process of transition from this life to the next. Her book contains an absolutely beautiful (and true!) story containing dramatic examples of communication between this reality and the other side of the veil.

You can listen to Dr. Childs and learn more about her work on her beautiful Web site, OneCandle.Net: Providing Light for the Journey, http://www.onecandle.net/. You can also hear her being interviewed by Drs. Gloria and Heidi Horsley on the Open to Hope audio program, Searching for Peace and Meaning After Loss . (The interview with Dr. Childs begins at the 35:36 mark on the slider underneath the player. Wait for the entire program to load before you move the slider to the 35:36 mark.)

You can watch Dr. Childs describe in detail her other absolutely beautiful, critically acclaimed and award-winning book, Will You Dance? on this Open to Hope video,

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Hi Elizabeth,

Thank you for your condolences. I really appreciate it. I hope you enjoy the book. It will describe all the different ADCs and actual stories of people who have experienced them. It is really uplifting.

Thank you. My Memorial Day was not that good because I was really missing my Dad. I just can’t believe it is real. I hope you had a nice Memorial Day.

Hi Lou Lou,

I have done a lot of reading on the subject and have had some ADCs from a good friend of mine who passed away as well as dear pets. I would say Faith also has something to do with it.

I can feel my friend’s presence. It is like a tingling sensation on the top, left side of my head. I keep on trying to feel my Dad’s presence. Maybe I am missing something. However, just because I can’t feel his presence, I know he is around me. I just have this feeling. Sometimes my cats will look at the doorway and act like they see something and I don’t.

With pets, I have had them jump on the bed when I was in between sleep, hear them purring , dreams and actually heard a meow telepathically once.

I’m glad you are going to see a famous Medium soon. I think that will help a lot with believing in the afterlife. Reading books on the subject also helps. Readings from a Medium can bring a lot of comfort. I had a reading in April with my Dad with a well known Medium also. It was great. Not sure if we can mention names here. Look forward to hearing your experience the Medium.



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hi Butterfly,

thank you so much for the kind words, I am glad you found your way to us.

I'm loulou's pal here who is on this never ending search with her wondering WHERE ARE OUR DADDIES :). I have always believed and have faith but since this I guess lots has been thrown out the window and now I feel I need hard proof, and I wonder if anything really would be good enough.

I've had the song thing happen twice, definitely not enough for me.

WOW, I've never heard anyone actually describe what they feel when they feel a presence. Do you feel your friend all the time or just times when you feel you need her/him ? And your pets also, OMG !!

I do like to think my Dad is around me, I guess what gets me is knowing how much he loves me that I can't get why he can't send me a proper real big sign. But that's all part of it eh, nobody knows with 100% concrete proof about the afterlife, no photos of proof *L*. But yep as you say the love and bond is not something that can be broken, it's changed and it's adapting to that change is so tough.

I know people have recommended some books to me and I've picked some up several times at the book store but just couldn't get them. I guess for now I am not ready to be reading lots of stories of other people's experiences (obviously it's different talking to someone here who actually has it). I guess I feel it will hurt me more because I don't feel it.

Friends have asked if it would help to go see someone (we don't really get famous mediums here so wouldn't trust anyone else, money money money for them!!) but I guess I feel if my Dad is really somewhere, can come through to someone then I am the one he should come to without me having to pay anyone. In saying that I am waiting anxiously for loulous trip.......we like to think of our Daddys having got together "up there" talking about us now that we've made friends down here so I'm hoping maybe loulou will get some little message for me too :). It's something that brings a smile to my face everytime I write that.

I hope you keep sharing with us and I hope you feel your Dad's presence real soon. I can't actually even imagine how comforting it would be, I hope it would, I hope it would be something that would sooth the feelings of loneliness and I absolutely hope it wouldn't be a once off feeling.

I'm so demanding :)

hugs and love to you hun and thanks for sharing all with us !


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Thanks Marty!I will be rolling up my sleeves,and diving into these,and I cant wait.It seems it would be so comforting to actually believe 100%.I always believe in other peoples accounts of stuff like this.It helps,and I need something solid right now.

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butterfly-I would be lying if I said I hadnt had strange things happen to me alot over the years.I had some little things happen after my dad died,that made me feel like he was around,but lately nothing.(my cat has been doing that,too)I have had unexplained things happen through out my life,I guess now I just want hard-core proof when it comes to dad.You had a reading with a medium!?!I have wanted to ask someone who had a reading how it was,so-how was it?:blush:Who did you see?Im seeing allison dubois in august.I feel like it was ment to be.It all came together shortly after dad died,and seemed like a path I was supposed to take.I also hope Niamh's daddy has a message for her,because she deserves it.I would love to hear about your reading,because I'm so excited for mine,and have been waiting for a long time.please,do tell...

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Dear Ones ~ The topic of After Death Communication is one of the most frequently discussed in our forums. If you'd like to read some of our members' posts from earlier threads, I've assembled a list of links to them for your convenience:

Do You Believe in Signs?

Do You Really Think We'll See Them Again?

Contact With Deceased

After Death Communication

Could This be a Sign?

Allison's Lessons

Is It True? Will I See Her Again?

Loss of a Best Friend

Lisa Williams Medium and Clairvoyant

Induced After Death Communication

I Swear I Could Smell Him

I've also assembled the following list of ADC Resources:

After-Death Communication (ADC): A Swan in Heaven (Book by Terri Daniel)

After-Death Communication: Hello from Heaven (Book by Bill and Judy Guggenheim)

Afterglow: Signs of Continued Love (Book by Karla Wheeler)

Afterlife Awareness Education

American Association Electronic Voice Phenomena

Ancient Stardust (Psychic Laura Scott)

Association for Research and Enlightenment: Edgar Cayce

Best Psychic Mediums (Recommended by Psychic Medium Researcher Bob Olson)

Deceased Son Gives Mom Signs, Comfort (Article by Sheri Perl)

Dr. Gary Schwartz.com: A Place for Information, Exploration, and Transformation

Extraordinary Grief Experiences: Coping with Loss of a Loved One

Gifts from the Unknown: Using Extraordinary Experiences (Book by Louis LaGrand)

God's Gift Of Love: After-Death Communications (Book by Christine Marie Duminiak)

Grief and Belief Connection (Grief and Afterlife Author and Investigator Bob Olson)

Halfway Across the River: Messages of Hope from The Other Side (Book by Annette Childs, PhD)

Healing Grief: Reclaiming Life After Any Loss (Book by James Van Praagh)

Hello from Heaven (Book by Bill Guggenheim & Judy Guggenheim)

How Grief Relates to the Work of the Soul: Laura Scott Interview

Induced After-Death Communication: A New Therapy for Healing Grief and Trauma (Book by Allan L. Botkin and R. Craig Hogan)

Induced After-Death Communication (IADC) for Grief Therapy

Induction of ADCs Utilizing Eye-Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR): A New Discovery

James Van Praagh: Survival Evidence Medium

Janne "Beyond Life" (Free Book Online by Ilse & Kjeld Johnsen)

John Edward: Psychic Medium, Author, Lecturer

Joyce Keller: Author, Psychic, After-Death Communications

Love and Light: Grief Support through After-Death Communications

Love Lives On: Learning from the Extraordinary Encounters of the Bereaved

Love Never Dies: A Mother's Journey form Loss to Love

Love Never Dies: A Mother's Journey from Loss to Love (Book by Sandy Goodman)

Love Never Dies 4U Chat Room

Love Never Dies 4U Discussion Forum

Love Never Dies 4U Grief Support Organization / Community

Loving Connections: The Healing Power of After-Death Communications

Medium Allison DuBois

OneCandle.Net: Annette Childs, PhD

Psychics and Mediums

Seven Steps to Heaven, by Joyce Keller

Signals: An Inspiring Story of Life after Life, by Joel Rothschild

Signs from Our Loved Ones: Our Son Billy

Soul Proof and Spirituality Information

Soul Shift: Finding Where the Dead Go (Book by Mark Ireland)

Spiritual Medium Christopher Stillar

Spiritual Psychology: To Dance with Angels

Spiritual Response Therapy (SRT)

Susan K. Sanderford, Clairvoyant, Medium, Spirit Communication

We Are Their Heaven: Why the Dead Never Leave Us (Book by Allison DuBois)

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Hi Lou Lou,

That is great, you have been having ADCs over the years. You see, your Dad has also sent you some signs. I know we always want this great big sign from our loved ones to really prove that they continue to live on. Sometimes we get them and other times they can be subtle. We will never really get all of our questions answered because maybe we also have to have Faith. Sometimes I look at the wind and say I can’t see it but I know it is there. We can see the effects of the wind by seeing the trees blowing back and forth but we can’t actually see it. I would love to have signs daily from my Dad but I know that isn’t going to happen. I do pray and ask for signs. It was a week or so after my Dad passed away and the air filter was making this strange sound. I have had it for years but it never made that sound before. It usually hisses when it needs to be cleaned but it was making this kind of roaring sound. I believe it was my Dad saying he is around. My sister had her CD player in the kitchen turn the CD around and around and it wasn’t even on. She also had the light in the oven flicker.

I’m so excited for you that your reading is coming up soon with Allison Dubois! I was nervous too about my reading and what to expect. I had my reading over the phone with George Anderson. He lives in New York and that would be too far for me to travel. It would have been nice to actually have the reading in person. The reading on the phone is just as good and I was able to record it. It lasted for about an hour and 20 minutes. George does not get a name or any info. He just gets the phone number to call. You can also use a fake name and a friend’s address. Also, during the reading, I was not supposed to say anything but just acknowledge if the info is understood or not by answering yes or no. He wants to get the information from the souls.

Three generations of Dads came through. My Dad was the youngest of the generations and was coming through as the real McCoy. My Dad described his passing. He said he had a rough time before his passing and he is glad it is over. The week prior my Dad was really not feeling well (my note). He said he was in a sleep-like state before he passed. My Dad said he knows we would like to have him here in the physical form but that is the best he can do and it is better than nothing. He said if he is not A+ (meaning in good health) then he does not want to be here. I know my Dad had a hard time being sick when he couldn’t do the things he enjoyed so that info was right on. My Dad said it was his time to go otherwise he would have not passed. My Dad said he can walk again and is back to his old self. That brought tears to my eyes. My Dad had a hard time walking shortly before he passed. He said he had a full life and that his family means a lot to him. There were other things he said but I just told you a couple of important points.

Other names came through like my Uncle who passed away very young at the age of 47. George said that my Dad has visited me in dreams. My brother had the first dream where my Dad said he is feeling better and he can go to Europe in the Fall. My Parents would go to Europe every other year to visit Family and Friends. They were going to go this year. My Dad said he is a Guardian Angel for me and my Family until we can be together again. All this information came through without me even saying anything was just amazing.

My special Friend also came through. He said I couldn’t save him. I tried so hard to help him recover from his cancer. He said it was too late when he was diagnosed. He thanked me for trying to help him. There was more to the reading but I just told you some important points.

I truly believe that you are meant to see Allison. I wish you a great reading from your Dad and hope Niamh’s Dad sends her a message as well.

Some good information to check out if you are interested.

George Anderson’s website.


George is also on Face Book where you can ask him a question. He personally answers people’s questions. You can kind his Face Book page on his website.

Books written by George Anderson. These books are excellent.

Lessons from the Light

Walking in the Garden of Souls

Books written about George Anderson and his Readings.

We Don’t Die

We Are Not Forgotten

Our Children Forever

Website from the authors of Hello From Heaven. There is a message board with people posting their ADCs.


There are so many great books out there on the After Life. I enjoy reading and need to order some more books.

Hugs to you,


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Wow Marty!I needed this:).I wasnt sure if people discussed this alot,because it touches on personal belief,but I'm so glad they do!It's a topic I'v been obsessed with for months. butterfly-How exciting!It really gives me hope.I'm honestly not sure why I question this,when I have been having episodes my entire life.I never questioned it before dad died....He did come to me in 1 dream,shortly after,but he didnt speak to me.He just looked really sad.(but healthy,no wrinkles)I have had songs sent to me,I think from him.And a crazy incident where my brothers girlfriend and I were driving,and talking of my dad,and crying,and the hazard lights kept coming on.We would turn them off,and they would come on again.It hasnt happened since.I guess,short of seeing him in front of me,I will always want more.The feelings and incidents have since tapered down to nothing.I dont know what that means.But I'm gonna once again start reading everything on the after life that I can get my hands on.I love to read too.I'm always reading something,sometimes 2 or 3 books at a time.It really does help to think they can still hear us and see us.I miss him so much.Thank you for sharing with me.I think maybe it was our fate to bump into each other here,so you could help me with my doubts.You never know!Cant wait to hear from you,-lila

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Hi Niamh,

I think a lot of us do believe in the afterlife but when we lose a precious loved one; our lives have been shattered and then we have our doubts. That is normal. We all want proof. One has to be patient and keep praying to our loved ones asking them to show a sign. It can take some time and you have to look for the signs even if it is a subtle one. Those two songs were definitely meant for you and were from your Dad. I had some signs from my special friend. I was walking outside and this bird flew close to my face chirping and then flew away. It came back two more times and did the same thing. Also, I went to a concert with a couple of people and out of the blue, one person was signing this song. It was a song that my friend and I would sing. It just came to her to sing it. I know that was a sign from my friend.

My friend is around me often and not just when I am down. I know when he is not around and then I think of him and then he is around because the tingling sensation is felt. It is really neat. I really miss my pets also. One time I could feel the weight of the cat on my legs and then when I moved it was gone. That was when I was half asleep.

I do honestly believe your Dad is around you. He wants to help you through this difficult time. Sometimes we just have to accept the small signs and also rely on Faith. No, no one knows a100%. We will know and have our questions answered after we have crossed over.

Only you know if and when you are ready to read some books. That is okay. If you do decide to do some reading I recommend, Lessons from the Light and Walking in the Garden of Souls by George Anderson. Those books are a good start. Just keep praying and asking for a sign from your precious Daddy. Be patient and let yourself be open to even the smallest of signs. I’m sure he is trying to get through to you to let you know he is alive and well and loves you very much. Sometimes we can get frustrated when we don’t get a sign. Our loved ones will give us a sign in due time.

That is true. George Anderson says you don’t need him or any other medium to talk to your loved ones. You can do it on your own. Meditation is also a good way for our loved ones to come through to us and make contact. I have to work on that because my mind gets cluttered with all these thoughts. It takes practice. If you put your mind to it you can do anything. Yes, LouLou’s trip to see the Medium, Allison DuBois is exciting. I too hope you get a special message from your precious Dad. I’m glad it brings a smile to your face when you write about it.

I do hope I will feel my Dad’s presence physically too. It would be very comforting.

Hugs, love, comfort and strength to you.


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