Queeniemary Posted December 3, 2010 Report Share Posted December 3, 2010 I am having such mixed emotions, and feel so guilty over them. My good friend Dana, who lost her husband 20 months ago, is suddenly and unexpectedly (for her as well) in a relationship. I am happy for her, but also feeling sad that I may not have the close relationship with her that I have had because of the new relationship. He seems like a great guy, and she says he makes her less sad. Up until a couple of weeks ago she said she could never be serious about anyone, but now she is in this relationship. How can I not be happy totally for her. Am I jealous? Maybe a little. Am I afraid our relationship will change. Yes, a lot. She has been such a rock for me these past 10 months. Dana and I went to a play at the Lyric last night. She told me he was going to join us. I felt like a third wheel for part of the time. I don't think it was deliberate on their part, they are just pretty wrapped up in each other. I guess I wanted a night out with Dana on my own, and did not want to share. I feel so petty, and mean. I really like the guy, his name is same as my husbands, Michael. Why can't I just be very very happy for her, instead of thinking about myself? I hope I get over this feeling soon. We have our little support group, Dana, myself, and our friend Tom....is this relationship going to mess up our group, will Dana still feel the need for our little group....so many questions, and no answers. Mary (Queeniemary) in Arkansas Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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