kevin Posted September 4, 2015 Report Share Posted September 4, 2015 Decided to take a constructive look at myself after 6 weeks since I lost my Angela....My concern is I developed a Morning habit of drinking in the local Pub on a Daily basis. It's a morning chit chat session that is talk about News, Sports, and weather. But I do consume about 6 Beers without breaking a sweat. And I do find once you get the Beers in you , your motivation to do anything else but have a nap is gone. I sincerely believe this excessive drinking is a symptom of my Grief(coping mechanism) and should work its way through the process. On the positive side, I started going to the Gym at 5 AM to get the day started with a jump........that combined with my Golf walks should keep my Health in check., diet this time of year is 75% veggies and Dairy.......tomorrow I will slowly switch to low Cal Beer...hopefully maintain my Energy and feel a little better about myself.........The Grief will always be apart of me, and I will deal with it with a smile, it is something I'm proud of......Love you Ang Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
R.Everit55 Posted September 4, 2015 Report Share Posted September 4, 2015 Hi Kevin. I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear Angela. I'm concerned about your routine of drinking. I pray you are seeing a trained grief counselor or will consider doing so. He or she can help you learn coping skills to replace the drinking. This journey is one very utterly raw and painful one. I lost my precious Mary almost nine months ago. My whole world. Many hugs and lots of prayers. You may not believe in prayer but I do and will pray for you my friend in grief. Butch. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted September 4, 2015 Report Share Posted September 4, 2015 Alcohol is a depressant...something you don't need right now. Exercise releases endorphins that make you feel better, so going to the gym is a great choice. I agree that a grief counselor would be a positive step in the right direction. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
debi.williams Posted September 11, 2015 Report Share Posted September 11, 2015 Hi Kevin just wondered how you were doing? I know it is 7 weeks since you lost your beloved Angela and on Sunday it will be 6 weeks since I lost my beloved husband. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kevin Posted September 14, 2015 Author Report Share Posted September 14, 2015 Day 51 according to my Journal and life is moving forward........Cut down on my Pub visits and concentrating on diet,exercise, and overall wellness....(Goal is to lose 15 # by Christmas). Approached by someone yesterday about condolences and I couldn't talk, now the next time I see her I will be OK.....it is always the first encounter I go funny with people......Got a note the other day, author was "Elizabeth Kuber Ross"...The reality is that you will Grieve forever. You will not "get over" the loss of a loved one: you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but will never be the same. Nor should you be the same , nor should you want to...........this is Good and to the Core..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MartyT Posted September 14, 2015 Report Share Posted September 14, 2015 Yes, Kevin. Indeed it is. ♥ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harleyquinn Posted September 14, 2015 Report Share Posted September 14, 2015 (edited) .The reality is that you will Grieve forever. You will not "get over" the loss of a loved one: you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but will never be the same. Nor should you be the same , nor should you want to........I love this .. the healing part is the hardest to achieve Edited September 14, 2015 by Harleyquinn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayc Posted September 14, 2015 Report Share Posted September 14, 2015 It does take effort and time. Loss and grief changes us. In my honest opinion, I don't think altogether for the worse, I've seen good come through my grief journey, but it hasn't been easy or fun, and isn't something you'd wish on anyone. Still, I'd say it develops dimension within us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jillianne Posted September 15, 2015 Report Share Posted September 15, 2015 Kevin, I had been doing the same. For the past few weeks after losing my husband I had started my morning with half a bottle of white wine. Then sitting on the balcony until it would get too hot to be outside (austin, texas). Something about being inside our house in the mornings, it now being so quiet, was just impossible for me. Next week, I will start going to the gym first thing in the morning instead. As I had been doing for the past year until the day he went into cardiac arrest unexpectedly at age 30, 4 weeks ago Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harleyquinn Posted September 15, 2015 Report Share Posted September 15, 2015 the gym is helpful. I hurt my back yesterday so i am recovering from that, but before that i would go to the gym right after work and workout.....it helps me put all my grief into something productive Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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