Hi Kasey, I sometimes do the same thing you do to get by - I put on a face and block everything negative out of my mind for as long as I can. But that blockage never lasts and I do experience the pain, the crying, etc. I use my blockade as a coping mechanism, and think that you probably are doing the same thing but on a higher level. Have you considered therapy? I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with you but maybe talking to someone might help because he/she may have more insight and be able to suggest ways in which you can open yourself up more. And if you discover all the emotions you'll have a professional to help you deal with them. I probably will wind up in therapy myself at some point because my loss is so recent and I haven't fully come to terms with it, so I do think if you find the right person she/he could point you in a positive direction. If you don't like that idea maybe check out a few books on dealing with loss? I bought one and it's helped me understand some of my feelings. Kathy