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Mig we do not know each other but I'll sure say a prayer for you that all goes well...

Last couple of days have OK until the afternoon and evening I am having lots of emotions missing our evenings together and discussing our days...God I miss her so much...I feel I'm managing fairly well ( I think) by myself and with this group and the one I attended locally, the only family I have is one of sons lives here in the same town and a few friends but we lived a fairly private life, Ruth's children live near but we do not stay in contact as we should, I call and sometimes I get a called back... I have all the paperwork underway and that's another issue all it's own.... so for now hanging tough, and praying God's eyes and hands are watching and touching us all.... NATS

Thanks folks for your replys it's great to hear from you... I went to a local Hospice Greif Support Group tonight which I wasted no time in sharing my story as I know it helps, it was also good to here the others stories as well, between here and that group I have found some valuable advise and direction, I am continuing day by day with many times of uncontrolable emotions, but with God's and all your help each day I think things will get better as you've all said....

Well somehow with the help of God and prayer I got a couple of items done...one reason I was dreading was I needed more copies of the death cert. and had to go get them, not a fun task and no one to help me out kinda doing this on the as need to learn basis...I have an atty. handling the major items but I need to do something on my days off...I'm doing the house chores, laundry and such but I still have other things most people don't think about you having to do buy yourself when you are now alone....I am taking small steps as mentioned but those are sometimes major... I'm going to a local Hospice Support Group tomorrow evening, I figured I need as much help and support as I can use and have plenty to gain by giving it a try...I'm glad I found this forum it's been a nice outlet with many helpful people and lots of stories to learn from..... NATS

Well today I'm a total basket case I've been crying since I woke up and can't seem to shake it....I'm so lonely and miss Ruth so much, the hurt is like nothing I've ever felt before, I have things that need to be done but I can not get going today and if I don't get them done I'll have to wait until my next 2 days off next week.... I'm praying God will send me some strength and drive to get going....

Angie, Thanks, yes the little things do indeed set me off into the crying mode, I never knew someone could cry so much, I made it thru today it was rough I tried to do some yard work and we always did it together but today she was no where in sight and it tore me apart so much I just finished then went inside....I also can not imagine not missing them any less later I think we'll just adapt better....I pray for all the greiving individuals here and everywhere this is the most I've ever hurt in my whole life, when I lost my Dad it was tough but not this bad and this is way differant because we became one when joined by God in our union of marriage....

Well today is week 4 to the day and I'm feeling so lost...I cry everyday and the hurt is so bad at times...I'm manitaining working which I think is helping but the evenings and mornings are rough....it's helping reading other posts and responses, it lets me see where I'm at....

Dale&Sue, I am approaching the 30 Day mark since my wife joined he Lord and very new to the process we are all going thru here, I feel many of the feelings you describe already, I have found thru peoples posts here and speaking to others we need to stay in a mode of living what our lost loved ones would want us to do...continue on, while as hard as it is we need to think and remember our loved ones would not want us to give up, in fact my wife and I spoke of that and how I would go on and she told me she expected me to be strong remember our happy good times even as hard as it would be but continue to try and live a normal happy life...but it's so hard I know, you say "No one can take away the pain, I know, I just need to get it out there", I find great comfort in my faith and seeking answers thru reflections and seeking and asking for strength in continuing on each day, I also talk to my wife just like she's here sometimes, I still say good morning sweetheart and we say our prayers at night, like I said I'm new to this also, no expert this just has helped me....from what I see keep comming here and you will get a lot of support and help during this time....try and keep moving on...

I thank each and everyone of you who responded.... you have all given me some very good starting points and tips, I intend on giving anything a try to ease the pain, starting here was good choice glad I found this site, looking forward to chating and sharing more of my grief and looking forward to your responses... Thank Again NATS

Thank You for the reply, raw never came to mind but you bring a good point that's how I feel I'm trying to work thru anyway I can...

Hello Everyone, My wife left to be with the Lord 2/14/10 after 9 months of intense and aggressive treatments for Lung cancer, I was her primary care giver and made every trip with her all the up's and downs and in's and out's, I am a complete and total basket case I miss her so much and the emptiness I feel is as if there's a hole in my heart....I'm working but each day has a new feeling of that being lost and confused....I found this site and I'm hoping a few of you can give me some starting points on how to deal with this....I pray and pray and that indeed helps but I'm sure by hearing some of your thoughts will help as well.....

Sometimes denial may be good maybe if I had some my intense loss would not be felt so much.

My wife left to be with the Lord 2/14/10 and I must say, I have had some of the same feelings because she is at peace, and as I do give thanks for the time we had together it seems to ease some of the intense pain and heartache.....